Damn girl I know your solution! Get your damn self-respect back! Oh my God are you for reals? I apologize for the pretty mean reality check here but if you had your self esteem back! I guarantee a. the first red flag you could have seen of him *disrespecting you *emotionally abusing of you (if you don't think this is what his doing to you look it up) *not take care of you like you deserve - you should have OPENED YOUR EYES and had said "why the hell did I go back with this guy when I deserve a loving, respectful MAN who will TRY to make things work for us no matter what and take care of him a.k.a. definition of an ALPHA MAN." In other words, you can ask any guy that has taken a girl seriously before and they'll tell you...THEY WILL TELL YOU THAT: a. they would LISTEN to their girls needs and TRY their best to make it happen and work with their girl. b. If your sad and mad and stressed (fill in your feelings of hurt here) he would DEFINITELY MAKE YOU FEEL BETTER by trying anything .. massage, watch chick flicks, kiss your forehead and hold you tight until you both hear each others heart beats...damn I think that was more romantic than he has been right now for you, and I'm a girl.
Look, I ended my seven month relationship with a great, awesome, honest guy and guess what? He didn't have money right, and LIKE YOU I didn't care if he couldn't take me out or etc. I just wanted to spend time with him and him to be with me all cuddly and cute, funny, lovey dovey lol well you get the point, so what's my point? Well here it goes, and make sure you listen c-a-r-e-f-u-l-l-y...4 days before Valentine's day his grandfather died, a month and a half ago his other grandfather from his dad's side had died and he STILL bought me flowers by asking his brother and he DEDICATED TIME to be WITH ME and he called me at eight talk for an hour and mourned later that week his grandfather. That was a lot, I didn't expect him to come up to me with flowers and a card and chill for three hours and him being detailed he picked up something that had meant a lot to both of us not just any flowers he saw but one with a heart shape of glass. Did I ask him to do this?NO! I did the opposite, I NEVER BROUGHT IT UP all I did was be there for him, be there as a friend, cry with him, tell him no matter at what time, day, or what ID BE THERE FOR HIM, guess what, ALL BY HIMSELF he DECIDED to DEDICATE AND LOVE ME no matter how bad things where for him at the moment. Now I'm not trying to say ALL MEN have to do this...no...every guy is himself. But you have to realize something...all men are the same in one thing...they are us except they have a more sexual drive I mean they were born with high levels of testosterone, it not their fault. But what I'm saying here is that if his human, he'll see through your feelings, if he cares he'll do something about it a.k.a. when his free of work he will watch that movie with gummy bears w you or call you for half a day or just sit with you doing nothing.
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You say you love him, so I guess he must have some good qualities that don't come across in your question, because he seems like a selfish jerk to me. You are putting a lot more into this relationship than you are getting out of it. He's not supportive of anything you do, he just tries to make you feel guilty for wanting basic things from him. I think one year with this guy is more than enough.
Skipping Valentines day is a good idea, I think. Anniversary, he should do something. Nothing major because if he sets a precedent, you'll be expecting him to top it from then on. It becomes an argument years later.
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It sounds like this guy has no idea how to maintain a relationship. Have you talked to him about these concerns?
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