My boyfriend suddenly disappeared. It's about a month we didn't contact each other. I miss him a lot.

[Anonymous]

About 40 days back I called my boyfriend but he didn't pick up my call. I called him so many times but he didn't receive my calls and neither he called back. since than we didn't contact each other. we met each other on a dating site. on my insistence he reluctantly deactivated his profile in that site. even after our unspoken breakup...his profile is inactive. I m confused is he still on me or moved on in his life? will he come back to me? does he still love me or may be he never loved me? I don't want to call him because I don't want to appear needy or clingy. I feel if he has moved on I should not interfere in his life and should give him his space. I also believe in,"if you love somebody set him free, if he is yours he will come back ...if he wont, he was never yours". moreover it was me who called last, hence now out of etiquette he should call me (if he loves me). I love him a lot and miss him badly. will he call me? what should I do? I feel he also loves me...but now I doubt on my instincts. may be he never loved me, because had he loved me ... why will he try to go away from me. I feel so bad and betrayed...because at-least he could have talked and broken up with me.

[Rhea_asks]

After around two weeks of dating, my boyfriend and I couldn't meet for around 20 days after that. We made plans but he cancelled for some reason or another. All this while there was just once that he called on the phone. He gave lame excuses for not calling. He was sweet on texts, though irregular. We made a plan of meeting the next day and he told me that he would be there by 11. I waited for 1.5 hrs but he never turned up. Replied to none of my messages, didn't call up. He's as of now inactive on whatsapp and fb and every other site known to mankind. His phone is switched off. Its been more than a week now. Its difficult to pass seconds. I do not know if he is okay or not. He hadn't made our relationship public so I cannot visit his home. Worst days ever.

[Anonymous]

Move on. This is what happened to me in my last "relationship" we also met on a dating site, and he treated me like I didn't exist after only four days that he asked me to be his girlfriend. He didn't have much to say and would just neglect me but whenever he would talk to me he would just give me attitude like I did something wrong. Finally I just decided to break up, when I did, he was really immature about it and told me not to talk to him anymore. I know it seems hard to let him go and you think things will get better but honestly one month? I think it's time for you to move on. You deserve someone better than that

[Anonymous]

me and my boyfriend engaged, were in a long distance rel. but he get mad cause i always fight about having no time for me. its almost a month having no contact with me. but after his been in n. c with me i asked him if his breaking up with me. then he told me dont push me and stop nagging me. so after that day i ddnt contact him. but i send my message and saying my sorry still just in seen mode. he didint yet unblocked me in social media. i trying to move on but still i have this why and so confused. can u please help me.

[HammerofTruth]

Listen, have some self respect. This guy disappears for a month? And you are still wanting him? Are you kidding me?! Who cares what the reason is, he obviously doesn't care about you. Drop him, move on. Try to get some more self confidence. I'm sorry if I sound harsh but you need to know as bluntly as possible that this IS NOT OK for someone to do this to you. If I'm dating a girl and she disappears for a month...heh, she'll never, EVER have a chance with me again, let alone think she can come back or even talk to me. You are worth more than that. Go find someone who deserves you.

[Iamnobody]

Sorry to sound insensitive... but what kind of a douchenozzle disappears without giving his girlfriend at least some sort of explanation. It seems to me like he doesn't really care much about you or your relationship or he would've AT LEAST broken up with you by actually SAYING something. I don't know it just seems shady and immature to me. You're probably better off without the guy anyway.

[Marime]

That happened exactly the same to me. I met this gorgeous guy on dating app of people that pass nearby the street you live. this amazing smile and I instantly was in love, the way he looked at me was very sweet and we had a very romantic relationship and couldn’t take our eyes off each other and I think was the first time was in love like this, would spend everyday together and some sleep overs also, after some time together he started saying things that made no sense and started complaining about my appearance and was trying to become friends with his ex girlfriend again. He claimed to be very shy and never told me of his whereabouts or even the area he lived or the nearby public transport station. Hr never introduced to any friends or family members and I spent a lot to have him food served besides other things. One day out of nowhere after almost a year together he completely disappeared without saying goodbye or telling me a reason, I must say I like him so much just like you feel I been a complete basket case, couldn’t sleep or eat, would cry all day even on streets something I never do even when I was diagnosed with cancer I never cried thirty the whole treatment. (That was way before I met him) because he would be here everyday was weird he is gone without any explanation and was hard very hard to adjust but I did it and now I see he wasn’t right for me. Someone leaving like that without any explanation doesn’t deserve your attention. I suggest to find someone nicer. Look after yourself as I did as this guy doesn’t care about you or wouldn’t leave like that. DO NOT by any chance take him beck as how your sure he’s not doing that again? He lost your trust and can’t be forgiven unfortunately. You will find someone nicer and cuter. I wish I have listened to my family and friends that never liked him by what I explained of him when we were dating. My best friend really didn’t like him. If something is taking away from you there’s a reason so be glad that probably is for your own protection. I will try to be way more careful with next guy as people we meet online can say things that aren’t always true and unfortunately we learn the hard way. I wish you well and understand exactly how your feeling. Hopefully you find soon someone that will care.

[QueenBeatris]

40 days? he is rude, and inconsiderate,do not wait for him,he didn't have the decency to tell you his true feelings but he certainly showed u,if he is hurt that is one thing but if you know for a fact he is ok,then the writing is on the wall,some people disappear without an explanation,i had that happen once,they are wimps.

[Anonymous]

I waited for my ex-boyfriend for 3 months while he was on a supposed break (no contact, phone calls, etc). He contacted me afterward and said that he is now dating someone else. If someone can ignore their significant other for that long, there is definitely something wrong. You deserve better than that. Don't ever call him and never look back.

[pr3ttybr0wn]

He's not right.you should move on and find a guy who thinks of you as much as you think of him

[fred_durst]

his wife found he has other woman (you) , and she kick him out from the house , so he ended up disappeared now