My boyfriend screams at me when I ask him questions! What the hell?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago, but recently we have started working things out. While we were apart, I was HONEST about telling him that I kissed another guy. He told me that he didn't do anything with a girl during that month. I found him on a dating site and asked him about it. He said that he was just on it because he also runs a dating site (which I knew) and he wanted to check out the competition. There was nothing sexual or flirty on his profile, and he didn't say he was looking for a relationship, but he wrote up a long bio and uploaded a picture. When I asked him about this, he just started yelling at me about the guy who I hooked up with while we were apart. Eventually he told me that he put up his pics and bio while we were broken up. But things would have gone so much smoother if he had just admitted that to begin with. Why does he always throw my past in my face when it's irrelevant? It makes me so upset. What can I do to fix this and get him to stop?

[username182]

I think the main reason for him shouting at you (Although totally not on) is because he's not over the fact that you kissed someone else.

Obviously, because you guys weren't together at the time you aren't in the wrong but he'll still feel betrayed.

Because of this, he'll be angry and instead of confronting the issue and getting past it, he's holding in his feelings about it and taking it out on you over little things.

I'm guessing the dating site is something he's embarrassed about and therefore doesn't want to talk about it. Just let that go, he clearly doesn't want to discuss it.

Just give him time to get over the kiss thing and things will work out. Maybe even talk to him about the anger because he may not even realise he's doing it. Maybe if he talked to you more about how he feels about the whole situation it'll help to get rid of the anger. Although with that said, don't ask him straight out if he wants to talk about the kiss. Let him do that on his own accord but give him the opportunity to do it. Don't bring up the subject directly though.

Thats what I think anyway. Hope it helps?

[Asker]

I think you are totally right! he has admitted to not being over it

[metaldave20]

hes probably feeling berated by you, and or he's hiding something, that he doesn't want you to know about

either don't ask questions, or don't talk to him

obviously it sounds like you want to talk to him, so just keep the questions to either a minimum or none at all

[ALWAYSclassy]

Um I would not just ignore that. If he said he forgives you then he needs to stop screaming at you. I wouldn't let that happen again, that's not cool. Tell him that you apologized and let him know about what happened in the past and if he's not over it then he needs to express that but not scream at you when you ask him about something that's completely unrelated to the past. If you have a concern you have a right to ask him a question but that doesn't mean he gets to scream at you. It sounds like he is feeling bad about something and is projecting it on to you.

[Jarett]

Um first off, you were broken up. And whether you should have made out with another guy or not that early is up for debate. But regardless of that, HE SHOULDN'T BE YELLING AT YOU. If a guy yells at you, you dump him. There is no need to be in a relationship like that. If he has that bad of a temper, then it will lead to more abusive things.

[1FastFC]

just let it go