Is this a normal reaction. He has really bad depression and has been to the ward before when he attempted suicide. I have bipolar and have been there too but even if I was to ask my councilor about it we see the same person so I'm not sure what she would tell me. Is this a huge over reaction to a bong breaking? I made it up to him by getting a local delivery of a $138 irridecent bong, a $35 oil slick grinder and a $20 sesh tray as an apology and an early Christmas present. Is this a huge red flag? It's apparently not the first time he hit his head, he does it often and punches holes in walls.
I broke my new boyfriend's bong. He screamed, "no, no, no, no, no." Started crying and banged his head into the wall. Is this an acceptable reaction?
I have depression and use to react very poorly to very simple accident such as spilling a drink. It is not an acceptable reaction and for me it was something that I always regretted and was embarrassed about immediately after.
His reaction seems a little more severe and I'd recommend he speaks with a medical professional about his mental well-being. It's a difficult step to take but for me it was a necessary decision.
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He has in the past, we have the same councilor. I see mine every 3 months cause it's expensive but he hasn't seen her in years.
Oh I see! My apologies, I'm from the UK so not familiar with how your healthcare works but there are also some good online forums for discussing mental health. It may be worth exploring those to find additional resources.
As advice for you though, you shouldn't feel that you are in the wrong, accidents happen after all. Best you can do is show support as I'm sure you do and encourage him to seek help in whichever form he can afford!
sometimes smoking marijuana can make mental health problems worse off that they originally were , there is documented evidence of this occurring in young people. so i'd question if him smoking marijuana is really in his best interest regardless of if its legal where you are , yes this incident is a red flag
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I smoke more weed than he does and it's legal here in Canada. I just don't think I'd cry if he broke my bong.
I used to smoke. And I can tell you absolutely if somebody has underlying mental health issues marijuana is only going to exacerbate it. He probably should put the bong down.
Wow - such arrogance and hypocrisy at once - what gives you the idea YOU need to find anything acceptable when YOU break something of someone else's they CARE about? The only things unacceptable are things that would constitute a crime - all else is ENTIRELY acceptable.
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I bought him a $140 bong, a $35 grinder and a $20 sesh tray. Please don't bitch me out because I mad a mistake. WoW
No, but it's not about the 'broke something' part - the value of it is always a personal thing. It's more about taking a hard stance against somebody who experiences it as severe loss. Maybe it's just the wording.
I cried when I broke it. I loved the bong too. He bought it used for $40. I hope that he is able to value his new bong as his personal thing. It's not a severe loss in my opinion. I have 3 really nice bong that I've had for years. If one of those broke I'd demand it be replaced but other than that I'd just swear. I didn't mean to break it and did everything a could to make amends. I'm a good person and I found what u wrote kinda unnecessary.
That is a massive, otherworldly, gigantic red flag so obvious I'm not sure how you're able to even see anything else with it flapping right in your face. Also, your counselor wouldn't say anything because he's another patient.
I think he has mental issues and should get therapy. That dos not make him a bad person or anything like that, but that kind of behavior is a bit extreme.
I say your a snow flake. You can't handle a term like mental patient without getting butt hurt, you're a snow flake simple as that. You've probably been brainwashed by a bunch of commies that put you in a "safe space" with kittens and coloring books. You have no idea the real reason for that. It's to make you so you can't handle reality and you'll be offended and cause as much trouble as possible. They've weaponized you and could not give a shit less what happens to you as a result. And, come the communist revolution, you'll be rounded up with the other snow flakes and shot. It's what they always do. youtube took this down to hide it but fortunately it's on bitchute. Take a look if you don't believe me. https://www.bitchute.com/video/KvdknPVCt1kc/
I am a communist. I'm also not a snowflake. The words u are saying I have read before. You're just some asshole waiting to push ur beliefs on uninterested stranger. What in the fuck does ur reply have to do with a bong being broken? I'm only butt hurt from all the anal sex he gives me. I don't care if u call me a mental Patient at all. Just don't steariotype me like u are doing right now. Myself and many friends of mine have taken a trip to the ward. It doesn't make you less of a good person. It doesn't mean shit all other than they had mental health problems. I wasn't brainwashed, I dropped out of school but I fucking love kittens what's wrong with that? I can handle reality and altered reality like on shrooms, acid, etc. As for communism I don't vote, I don't really care, there is a bunch of things associated with the parties but I dunno them. I do believe the government shouldn't own shit all. Private companies and competition can create successful societies. Also I'm from Canada and it isn't uncommon to hear a boyfriend call his girlfriend their snowflake. I'll watch ur dumb video later.
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