"Our relationship has always been great, we've had our ups and downs but nothing really big has ever happened"
This new development is pretty big.
Probably "break up" big.
He wants to have sex with different women, multiple different women. I'm guessing this is not what you want and there's also no middle ground here. So you two will have to split.
"also he said he feels he is not the right guy for me."
I think he's saying he wants to break up with you (which would be phase one of his plan of having sex with multiple different women), but he wants to be nice about the break up and he doesn't want to hurt you, so he's laying the foundation for a future break up by saying things like this to kind of prepare you for when the break up does happen.
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Call him on it; I don't think the boy means what he says. So let him go and tell him if he makes that choice to never return. Then tell him to take a day and really think about it before he speaks on the matter. If he should attempt to return reject him violently and enforce your autonomy; this line is used by kids who think that they can run around on whomever saying "I don't think ..." and then two months later after the sh*t hits the fan plays the prodigal child and returns, sad and bruised, hoping that you just "forget it all" and realize how much of a fool they were.
Ah, youth.
I agree with the other answerers. It's one thing for him to want to sleep around, but it's another to add on that he "feels he isn't the right guy" for you. It really does sound like he wants to break up but is too big of a puss to do it : /
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unfortunately what he is saying has little to do with you and everything to do with him. he is saying that he wants different sexual experiences. maybe he believes there is some sexual mecca he is goign to stumble upon but it just sounds like for him the relationship has run its course.
I don't think there is a ton you can do. I think a lot of guys and some girls go through this (which is unfortunate). After their first experience becomes a bit routine they feel as though they need more (or better said different) experiences.
you could ask him what it is he hopes to come across in other experiences or if there is a specfic experience he is looking for but be prepared for him to have already mentally checked out. It may be hard but utlimately it isn't your faulti would break up with a boy immidiately if he tells me something like this, and I don't understand why people have such problem wanting to have more sexual partners..
You're as cute as a button. He is being stupid.
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