Guy with long distance relationship is flirting with me? Help!

[Anonymous]

I've known this guy for a little over a year through mutual friends. He's in an ldr with a girl in Europe, so he only sees her on breaks (we're in uni). He never mentions her when we talk. We study together for 4 hours twice a week, and he'll joke around and nudge me a lot. One time I thought he was staring past me when I was looking at our practice problems so I said 'distracted by the coffee?' and he said 'no I'm just looking at you'. I brushed it off with laughing. It was getting late and we finished studying so I said I had to get back to my apt. He was going to stay at the library but he said 'nah I'll walk you back so no guys creep on you' and walked me until a block away I said I could walk the rest myself, then he texted me asking if I got home safely 5 min later. Is he just being nice /friendly? I would go for him but he's already in a relationship. Is it okay he's acting like this or should I speak up? Thanks!

[Ingrid422]

He has a girlfriend. Why would you want anything to happen with a guy that's taken? I know, the temptation is just too much sometimes. You crave the attention, like most girls do. Who's to blame, he's GIVING you attention, it's not like you're looking for it. Anyway, he seems friendly and you get along all right. I see these moves as being typical flirty moves (insisting to walk you home, caring about your safety, labelling himself as the ''nice, trusty guy'' as opposed to the rest of Male JerkPlanet). He could be flirting because he's a flirter. Some guys can't help with flirt with the opposite sex. I say keep on flirting back if you like him, but don't expect more to happen since he's taken. If he truly likes you that much, he'll man up and break up with his girlfriend, THEN pursue you. You're nowhere near that route yet, so please keep your expectations low. Oh and PLEASE, don't fall for the ''I'll leave her for you'' trick. Some guys like to pull that one on us, it's bound to fail.

[apirlo]

You need to back off. He's already really pushing it with those advances, but you're running to a message board and prattling off examples of all the attention he's giving you like some giddy, naive schoolgirl. Cease the joint studying, etc for a while and maybe eventually revisit your friendship once you've both grow up a bit more.