Why my girlfriend leaves before I wake up everytime she has stayed over?

[mjcma1977]

Me and this girl have been seeing each other for a little more than a month. We get along great and says she wants to be exclusive and we are both happy. However, everytime she has stayed over my place she leaves before I awake. First time I asked she said it's because I snored to loud. Second time stomach ache. Third time I woke at the same time and she said she was just going to go. Fourth time right after sex (excellent sex) she said her stomach hurt and wanted to go home. This was at 4am! She has questioned "what I want" and said she wants to be exclusive and I told her I want that too which I do and really like her. I just feel this is strange and I'm 36 her 29 and never experienced this. Lastly, I'm clean and so isn't my place I'm baffled. Thinking maybe she is hiding something? ? Confused in Minnesota. ..

[pinkswan]

Normally when a women leaves after sex it's because she doesn't want the commitment. It works like that for men too. She could have someone else too. The only person who can be honest is her. You need to do some thinking too though. When she leaves it shows you she's not committed to making it work. I'm not saying she doesn't want to, but if she did she would stay and give you every reason not to walk away. If she was committed and really wanted to make things work, she wouldn't be leaving. Basically, she is treating you like a fwb. (friend with benefit) No strings attached is not for everyone.

[mjcma1977]

Couldn't agree with you more and not opposed to a FWB situation. However, why the comments by her wanting to be exclusive. Also, asked if someone else had been over my place? If you want a FWB why question weather or not they are seeing someone else and say you want to be exclusive?

[pinkswan]

She's scoping you out trying to see how you will answer. Maybe she is ashamed to admit she wants a fwb. I'm sure she wants you to respect her. Maybe she thinks that if she tells you she wants sex only she knows you will act differently. You like this women, if she says it's just fwb, you will lose respect for her. If up front she told you friends with benefits only, you would show less attention. Yes, I'm stereotyping here on men and women . I'm speaking from experience. Fwb don't last and one usually gets hurts.

[Arwens-Fire]

Yes. This is quite odd. But maybe she is not all too comfortable sleeping in your bed just yet? Maybe she is more comfortable sleeping at home since you snore? I don't know I'm just speculating.All I can say is,sit down and have a solid conversation about it because if it continues,its only going to cause issues.

[Stacyzee]

She has a connection problem.

She is making excuses.

For some reason she doesn't want to get too close to you which is why she leaves before you awake.

Clearly, something from her past is arising those feelings/actions,

[martyfellow]

Sounds like she has someone else in her life and wants to be at her hoe by early morning in case they call or come by. Heck, she could be sleeping with soeone else on the other nights, and very possibly is.

I can't think of any other reasonable explanation

[MaskedSanity]

When I slept over at a guy's place, I preferred to leave early, because I prefer freshening up in the comfort of my own home, with all my toiletries and make-up.

[mjcma1977]

How about this question. When I have this conversation with her what questions do I ask to get the honest answers.

[martyfellow]

I'd just follow her one time...!! Play detective, since if she's doing something 'bad', she won't give you an honest answer!

[yaddayaddayadda02]

It's possible she's uncomfortable in your bed, or maybe doesn't want someone outside of your relationship to know you're spending the night together. You'll have to ask her at the end of the day.

[mjcma1977]

Thanks everyone for the great responses. ..I talked to her last night and she said she will try and get better at it. I don't want to start a fight but feel I need to call her out on this. I've been playing the "whatever it's fine drive safe front"..I just know the excuses are BS and want to know what the real issue is.