My boyfriend does not let me have a social networking stuff?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend does not let me have a instagram, Facebook , Twitter. When I downloaded apps like Meow chat for example he got upset. He does not want me talking to guys or hanging out with them. I do not hang out with my girl friends because he gets upset about it. I deleted my instagram and Facebook because he got angry every time I was on it. I am getting really tired and annoyed of having someone telling me what to do. He gets mad when guys I dont even know be nice to me and I am being nice back, its how I am I cannot change myself. But yet I do not want to upset him. I do not do my hair or makeup because he tells me why should I if I am by myself. I am doing it for myself I want to feel good about myself. I love him, he is amazing he really is, he never disrespected me, never physically hurt me. but I've had enough already. I dont know what to do. Please help me...

[Evrythng0riginal]

Leave him be. If he's a good guy like you say he is then he is exactly who I used to be with one of my ex's. You 2 aren't as happy together as you may think. Try to be friends. The truth is if he's anything like how I was then he needs to have time to himself as a single guy to reflect on what he really wants cause my guess is that he's not with someone he can honestly say to himself that he accepts completely as a person. I feel horrible to say that but realizing that makes me want to be the better man that I know I can be. It's made me a better person cause I'm not willing to jump into a relationship until I know that I won't have a lot of complaints about the person. To find out what you like is a hard thing because you first find out what you do not like and he is clearly expressing that very notion of what his dislikes are. I don't think you should change for anyone cause in the end you will be unhappy. You both currently are lying to yourselves. Don't hurt each other like that. Honesty is the best thing to have in a relationship and personally I could understand him being mad if the guy you talked too was describing your butt or something but to dislike you having an account anywhere is a form of control. I was only jealous to see a comment saying "that a** on you" and the fact that it was so kindly responded to but still it doesn't make it right to be jealous. Jealousy causes conflict so its best to not have it in your life. My opinion anyways

[Thatguy321]

I've let my ex's have social media stuff, personally i only have Twitter because everything else is honestly boring.. And i only use Twitter to follow celeb and comedians haha. I think he's being a bit crazy about the whole social media thing to be honest.. Too obsessive

[EmMilly10]

You say he's never disrespected you.I believe the disrespect begins when you're not aloud to do what you want to do.Having any type of social networking site is your right and not his to take away.Getting to be with your friends is also your right along with talking to guys.He shouldn't be so paranoid of you talking to them.You said he never physically hurt you which may be true, but thats not the only type of hurt that is wrong.If you reread what you put, I can tell you are in a situation that hurts you.Its all due to how controlling he is being.I think the best way to go is your separate ways.Just let him know how controlling he is.If he gets too upset then he's not understanding either and that rellationship was gone way before it started.

[patrickbe]

Disrespect has nothing to do with wanting someone else to do what they want to do.

If a girl has social media, lets just take instagram for example, it gives her the ability to post pictures of her life and also allows her to communicate with other guys. What is the purpose of communicating with other guys when you already have a boyfriend? Unless the boyfriend knows the other guy and they are friends and said friend of his follows the basic code of brotherhood (where you dont go after a friends' girl or ex) then it is a red flag. Cheating can and will happen by women through social media. It happens daily.

Now, him not wanting her to be around her female friends is pretty stupid. Is she supposed to be on lockdown with him just 100% of the time unless she's with family? Or at work? Pretty weird. A guy shouldn't be paranoid about a girl, ever. If he starts to get paranoid about a girl, he probably should find one that doesn't make him that way, also known as the OP.

The guy is trying to control her social life, which is fine to an extent. I know my girlfriend would get upset with me if she found out about some other girl through my phone, so why shouldn't he get upset if he found out she's texting some other dude? The only problematic part is him not allowing her to go out with her female friends.

[Anonymous]

He sounds way too controlling, paranoid, jealous, clingy, spoiled, immature, irrational, the list goes on. I'm not sure why you put up with all of that. I'm also not sure how he doesn't let you have social networking sites.

He never disrespects you? How can you say or think that? He's got you wrapped around his finger, there's no respect here, he's using you and making you do everything he wants, and when he doesn't get his way he gets mad. That's not a healthy relationship... that's just sad.

My advice is to break up with him.

[patrickbe]

Nah, he's controlling her social life. That's about it.

That isn't healthy to an extent. Her talking and hanging out with her female friends is fine. Social media allows her to communicate with other dudes. That's a problem in a relationship when she is texting dudes the other guy doesn't know about. Cheating happens this way. He's basically giving her the ultimatum where it's either you love me or you love social media, and I think that is a perfectly valid reason to be with someone or not.

[kittyforlife]

By getting upset with you like this, and telling you not to look good, its disrespecting you. Wether you think so or not. If i were you i wpuld talk to him and let him know hpw much you dislike him controling you, like this, and that its driving you away. I mean, have you ever done anything to break his trust? If not, then there really isn't any reason for him to act like this. He may change if you voice your feelings, but this may just be how he is, and in that case i would look into ending the relationship.

[Guy13]

Obviously you love him but your need to please seems a little far fetched. Those are staggering wants on his part.

[misogynistic_pig]

I promote independence and male self-sufficiency, as well as a rejection of romantic relationships and marriage.

Men should focus on their own interests and goals, instead of depending on women for their happiness or success.

You may have a rejecting attitude towards social media in general.

She often argues that social media is a means for women to seek attention and validation through likes and comments, which could be seen as a form of emotional manipulation or seeking power.

Therefore, your boyfriend might be trying to protect you from these negative effects.

However, it is important to note that each person has the right to set their own limits and preferences in a relationship.

If you don't agree with the restrictions your boyfriend is placing on your use of social media, it's important to have an open and honest conversation about your feelings and needs.

If he isn't willing to listen to you or commit, you may want to reconsider if this relationship is right for you.

[Lliam]

What's wrong with you? Why would you allow some abusive narcissist treat you like that? If you have an ounce of free will or self respect, you'll leave that piece of shit immediately.

You're nothing but a slave if you allow him to keep you on a leash and control every minute of your life.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

The line of thinking about not allowing someone to have social media stems from them communicating and sharing pictures with other men online with the chance that she could eventually use it to meet with and cheat. But that in itself is flawed. If she's of good character, she wouldn't do that to begin with, going on only so far.

[iampikachu]

Leave him NOW!!! I have been in an abusive relationship and this is how it started. Trust me, he wants you to be totally depended of him. He doesn't want you to have friend so he can be your only friend.

[DodgersGM]

This sounds like an incredibly unhealthy relationship. My advice would be to dump him ASAP.

[Anonymous]

you need to dump his ass, what do you mean ''never disrespected you''-he doesn't even treat you like a person, he treats you like property. and get protection after the breakup, he sounds like the stalking type.

[Anonymous]

You should dump his ass immediately. You don't have to put up with someone who is controlling like that. There are plenty of guys out there that will treat you better.

[BergmanMC]

How long have you guys been tigether, how long is this post?
I would like to add that I'm going through the same thing. My husband let's me wear make up at home but he'll make comments sometimes a nout it and how I dress sometimes and chalk it it up to being a "joke" we've been married for 9 years. Together for 12 years and have 2 kids together.

[insanityy]

Relationships are about love most importantly, as well as trust and respect. He is being controlling and clingy, and I do not mean to upset you but I have seen this happen a few times before - this sounds like the early beginning of an abusive relationship. I suggest you try to get out of it just in case things get out of hand.

[worldscolide]

That just seems controlling. I could see if you had done things in the past which lead to infidelity, but saying you can't use it without good reason, and no, talking to the opposite sex is not a good reason, just doesn't seem right.

[Prof_Don]

Warning signs galore of a controlling abusive guy...leave now! It will only get worse.

[Razp_Sorbet]

He's literally disrespecting you right now. Controlling your life is disrespectful. Break up with him. It will only get worse.

[Anonymous]

He probably doesn't want you to be on the internet a lot because he wants you to spend more time with him. You can't even hang out with your girl friends? Yeah he's controlling, needy and jealous. He seems very insecure.

[SweetTwistedSatanist]

He already disrespected you, you just don't see it that way. Typical controlled partner not having a clue their SO is controlling and jealous af.

[mario1321]

Take my advice get away from him why because i was the same way to my girlfriend it gets worse believe me

[Anonymous]

"let you" my ass.

Snapchat - i can understand, all social media though - he has problems.

[Anonymous]

You let your BF not let you do those things. Put your foot down and do what YOU WANT. Don't be a pansy.

[Meeow]

he's possessive... that isn't a relationship you would want to continue...trust me...

[marth]

It's time to say buh bye to this ball and chain.