Questions: Relationships

Secure: If you feel confident in your relationships, your attachment style is probably secure. You are comfortable being independent and giving your partner space. But you also ask for support when you need it and provide support when they ask for it.

Preoccupied (anxious/ambivalent): If you spend a lot of time worrying about your relationship, your attachment style may be preoccupied. You may fear being alone or being abandoned by your partner. You crave reassurance about your relationship.

Dismissive (avoidant): If you avoid emotional intimacy, you may have a dismissive attachment style. You may find yourself in and out of romantic relationships because you won’t let those relationships get too serious.

Fearful (disorganized): If your caregivers displayed scary behavior — like abuse, neglect, or high anxiety — you may develop a fearful attachment style. With a fearful style, you may want to be close to people and avoid relationships, all at the same time.