Should your partner have influence over you?

[lilyanony1]

Should they constantly making suggestions for you to follow?

[SteveSmith1985]

No, a partner shouldn't constantly be making suggestions for you to follow. That sounds quite unhealthy. It seems controlling. A partner should generally want you to be your own person, and to do things... however you feel is best.

If someone wants to be with you... why do they "constantly" have "suggestions" for how to do things differently (or to be different) than you already are? Do they want to be with YOU; or the 'you' they hope to eventually change you into?

[D_Bone_Steak]

I like this opinion. Partly because I've been the victim of trying to be changed while just wanting to do my own thing... and partly because just leave me the fuck alone if you don't like who I am already!.

[DonkeyDan]

NO, that's a controlling partner that does that. Having open conversations and discussions about ideas for you if you are looking for them is something different, like seeking advice. But if they are telling you what to do that's not good, and a major red flag.

[menina]

No they shouldn't. If they do then they're abusive. Just because you're in a relationship it doesn't mean that you have to stop being yourself. Your partner should never boss you.

[Bratsondanielle]

Otherwise the relationship would be kinda difficult

[lilyanony1]

Why do you say that?
Isn't openly talking and making decisions together part of how a relationship works... If one person is suggesting and influencing aren't that tailoring the relationship to suit them?

[Bratsondanielle]

You should always be able to reach common ground

[IsoUser]

My girl in essence already does, I just don't let her know it Lol openly. She has excellent judgment but then again she's a lawyer and I am an IT, Robotics and Neural Network guy Lol so go figure but she is the light of my life and I love her like no other before or since in my life

[D_Bone_Steak]

Depends... if you need to make changes maybe listen. If someone is just being the classic narcissistic controlling type... they need to fuck off. It's a judgment call you have to make as a person.

[Baylayy]

Opinions are always fine. Nothing wrong with it. Cause if they didn't then it shows they are not much interested in their partner and that's a red flag

[Blackcosmo]

No because you are your own person and that sounds kind of controlling. Of course suggestions can be very helpful but too much isn't good.

[NathanDavis]

constantly? no...

if that's what they want or need they should get one of those customizable avatars from video games... lol

[DizzyDesii]

I do like to be eachothers motivation, influence and bodyguard. But not all of the time. We should be that regardless of if we’re a thing

[glennos89]

Ofcourse not! You should have the freedom to express yourself in any way you want making any choice you prefer!

[Anonymous]

To motivate them is great and even push them to follow their goals. Trying to get you to be something else or do other things that you aren’t interested in is odd

[EmmaMary]

No absolutely not, that would be showing a controlling attitude.

[idkIoI]

No that sounds controlling. You will naturally influence each other over time, but not in a way that they are trying to influence you or trying to run your life.

[soe11]

Occasionally but not always.
Same way I don't controlled her in past not will be in the future.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Not constantly. An adult is an adult, not a little child who constantly needs to be guided or told what to do.

[Apple1996]

Nah that sounds controlling

[driven159]

you should have influence with each other that is why you call it partnership

[lilyanony1]

Hmmm influence... Should be a natural progression. There shouldn't ever be a need to tell your partner covertly how you want them to be.

[jahaims]

Influence yeah. Dictate how you love no. A good partner is there to help you grow and hold you accountable.

[PatriceONeal]

The man should be in charge. I don't know how this became an unpopular opinion.

[FilmGuy93]

That sounds more like control than just influnce.

[Juxtapose]

Nah, that seems a bit overbearing.

[Waldoe]

suggestions are NOT orders... you do not need to follow suggestions, so your question is confusing

[lilyanony1]

I prefer your hair blonde.
You just got your hair dyed red and didn't ask their opinion.

[EaterPeter]

No to constant suggestions

[EaterPeter]

You could have ask, do you like nagging partner rather 😏

[EaterPeter]

Thanks for like!