Questions: Relationships

This isn't in reference to myself, just thinking about it in general from conversations I've seen between couples.

Lets say someone keeps saying they are not doing something anymore. Something they used to do but they stopped because they got into the relationship.

I don't have any particular thing in mind that is being hidden, just the concept of hiding and lying about it. Decided to throw something in here, cause it can be hard for people to imagine without an idea.

If something else fits you better, use it instead.

Lets say person A says they used to do onlyfans and sell content on snapchat. They no longer do.

They promise to their SO they no longer do that and give lots of reasons why. They have stated this many times in the past, nothing to be worried about.

Person B, the SO does at first trust without a doubt, but then starts to find little things that don't match up. Eventually they make a fake account to spy on their partner and find out, they've been lied to all along. That they really are still doing onlyfans and selling content on snap.


Which is worse and why do you think that?

No option for both are bad, cause trying to determine what most people think is the worst of the two.

I've often heard the saying ''Why buy the cow when you can get the milk for free'' but how true is that?

If the saying is true, this has me confused. My parents had sex (right on the 2nd month) in their relationship and so did a couple other relatives but they still got married. If they didn't wait till marriage, how did the guy still married them? In comparing to now, it's like having sex even with a boyfriend ruins everything. He can be dating her for many years and wasting her years into nothing.

I feel like it has been the cause of my anxiety/depression.. moreso after a recent breakup.
BUT it has some uses such as keeping in touch with others and I have an art account too where I share my drawing skills so not sure what to do.