I get mad when I say this is really wrong and face the other people's bad words , thoughts or etc. Then just tell me what is the difference between living together and a marrige? You do everything before marriage , so what makes the marriage special? Or why you marry then if you do so? Those two different situations are theorically are completely different while practically are the same , already , if everything involved marriage is already belong to pre-marital things also , why do you not wait for the exact things to do at exact place or exact feelings at the exact time. If we are all be like this experiencing and do this riduculous things with not only just one person but only so many people , at the end why we marry to only one person and try to be loyal to him/her , does it even makes sense though , I am asking? And then we interrogate why the marriages are unhappy , what leads to be divorced , why people are cheating on his wife/her husband and etc. So dramatic !!!
If you have not done those things you will have a really considerably much more higher chance to find ur true love in the future , as a result. Just use your brain !!!
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Civil 'marriage' exists as a legally-binding societal 'contract'
originally to 'codify' potential inheritances of progeny...
would you NOT like to KNOW if your personalities are FUNCTIONALLY compatible
during those chafing 'off' days rather than just if... you're on your 'best' behavior?
BEFORE you (pl) as a 'couple' become progressively legally-entangled in long-term leases, credit and
legal commitments?
That's 'why' even the Neo-pagans still often honor the tradition of "13 lunar months and a day..." BEFORE finalizing a 'Hand Fasting' Commitment~ ) O ( THEIR Clergy (HP / HP-ess) are merely legal witnesses to the mutually- binding Oath they make pledging before their concept of Deity and one another~
Until THAT time, a WISE female continues physical contraception! ; )
Studies show that it makes no difference if people live together until marriage or not.
It's MARRIAGE that makes the difference. Living together is another form of honeymoon. People act out what they've experienced in their home lives. Some have good examples, some not so good and some no examples. Living together is practice, it's not marriage.
Marriage has to be an agreement and a vision that a couple works out and hopes lasts. Living together is a "right now, let's see." You don't have to pool checking accounts or comment on how you both spend money or visit each other's families for holidays or decide on how the children behave or where they go to school. You don't have to work out a saving for retirement plan or saving for a home.
It's like practicing for a concert. Marriage is the concert. Two completely different experiences.
I think you should live separately until your engaged and the marriage is less than 30 days away but no sex until your married and no visual disclosure until your married. I might wait a week after the wedding to have sex just because it would be a very stressful event even without the sex.
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I think people should do what works best for them and their relationship as long as they're both on the same page with that.
It's up to them. If they're waiting to live together, though, they should definitely have a trial run of what it will be like living together.
I would strongly suggest there be a period of time where they live together. It's good to know what boundaries both will have, what house rules both agree too and the like. Makes for a smoother transition after marriage. Marrying someone is already ridiculously stressful, having something concrete like previous experience living together will go a long way in helping get through that stress.
Plus, there's no use in pretending that they won't have sex. Sexual compatibility is critical in most healthy marriages; it's also a deep source of intimacy for both. Knowing you're compatible at home and the bedroom will make life a hell of a lot easier.Only a moron would wait until they are legally bound to someone to see if they are compatible the live together. For a lot of people it's actually about appearances, but your god knows the truth.
And to that end, waiting to have sex until marriage is also unwise unless you have no interest outside of procreation. If you find yourselves sexually incompatible either it will eliminate a major part of adult life for you, reducing you to glorified roommates, or someone (possibly both) will find themselves regularly subjected to marital rape as they really won't want it.Having lived with a few boyfriend's I'd say wait until marriage.
Now I will say the most important thing is that people live on their own before ever trying to live with someone else.
Its a terrible idea to move from parents right in with a SO... such a bad bad idea.
Live at least two years on their own before moving in.If it is truly a serious relationship going on for years, then I think the next step is actually finding out whether you are compatible living together. It is different compared to traveling and being with each other for a couple of weeks. It sure is the ultimate test to see whether compatibility is truly there.
Any relationship including marriage is an exchange between a man's resource provisioning exclusivity and female's sexual-reproductive exclusivity. A live in relationship typically benefits the male as he's getting the sex without the commitment. And that will be picked up on by other men who would not want to commit for something another man has gotten without the commitment.
Whatever they want. Personally I'm not waiting for marriage. I think it's a step that should come before marriage, as it helps the two people to get to know each other even more, sometimes negatively, which is all something you want to know before tying the knot.
Marriage first. You live with your partner bevausevyou are married. And you marry her because you love her. Willing to be prepared is a good thing. But living together first for the sake of "trying" or "preparation" is mislet in my opinion. Prepare with faith vs prepare with fear
Because you won't be able to control or prevent everything, and you need sometimes to learn right to the cold water.I'm a traditionalist. I think people should wait until marriage. However I'm cognizant of the world we live in today and I know to EXPECT people to stick to that tradition is probably fighting a losing battle.
I don't think people should at the very least be engaged first though.There are thi gs you can't know about your partner until you have lives with them. Like their habits and routines, how they take care of themselves based on their living arrangement. Def shouldn't jump right into a move either. Take your time to really know the person in different situations first
From a Christian perspective it depends. There are a few things such as saying your vows in front of God or if the couple is not having sex.
Other then that I think it depends on the relationship. As well as the two people involvedHonestly cohabitation can help them to learn each other’s habits and quirks provided their moral or religion allows it. But they should be in an exclusive relationship for 5+ years before considering marriage and/or children.
After getting married sounds good to me. I do agree that you should spend some time together before getting married to see if you're both compatible or not like spending weekends together or going on vacation together.
Personally, I have to live with my prospective partner before I commit to marriage.
I can't make a commitment to a lifelong partnership if I don't know what it's like to *live* with my partner.We were engaged when we moved in together. His lease was up and it made financial sense. We both wanted marriage, that had been established. Just hit 19 years of wedded bliss🥰
I’m all for living together because if you two can’t make it work before marriage it probably won’t work after marriage.
Live together. You don't really know someone until you have lived with them, even if you dated them for a long time it isn't the same as living together.
You're supposed to wait for marriage to have sex. Nobody ever said anything about living together.
... However, I don't want my fiancee sleeping in the same house with me at night.Getting the girl to move into my house wasn't nearly as tough as my having to throw her out!
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