Polls: Relationships

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I met my boyfriend online in November, and we plan to meet in person for the first time in May. Since he lives in another country, he invited me to visit him, but he asked me to split the cost of my ticket in our FIRST TIME MEET.

What bothers me is that, in the past, he traveled back and forth to the Philippines to visit his ex-wife and even paid for long hotel stays with his other exes. He paid everything without them contributing! He often tells me he values me more than his past partners and sees me as his future wife. However, when I questioned why he treated his exes differently, he said it was because they were poor, while I earn a better income. I explained that I have major expenses, including living alone in another country and supporting family in my home country, but he insisted that since I’m in a better financial position, I should contribute.

It’s not that I refuse to split the cost, but I can’t shake this uneasy feeling about why he’s treating me differently. Am I overreacting, or is my concern valid?

Please advise what should I do? And, vote below!

I feel like if they cheated with someone who’s better than me (in terms of looks especially), I’d be super insecure about myself and the way I look. But if they were to cheat on me with someone who’s less attractive then I’d also be questioning my self value… It’s a lose lose situation for sure.

Before I got cheated on I was a firm believer that any form of cheating would immediately end the relationship. But now that I got cheated on after three years together, I can see why some people still stay and try to work it out (especially if there are kids involved). Don’t get me wrong, I think cheating is horrible and anyone who cheats is a lowlife coward but depending on why they cheated or for how long - I can understand why couples choose to reconcile. So in that case, is cheating really a death sentence?

Honestly I don't think she respects him or sees him as a man. I could never do that to my man but then I respect him and our relationship and he would never put up with all Jada did because he has self respect and is a real man.

This is hypothetical. When I say significant other, I am talking about a long term committed partner.

If what you and what your significant other can do are different, please explain why.