Polls: Relationships

This is regarding my older sister. Her ex boyfriend came after a week after she broke up. Meanwhile it's sweet he came to his senses, came to apologize and propose, my sister is still hurt. He promised to have the wedding expedited within 2 months later.

She's wondering why he wouldn't propose all those 7 years into the relationship and why only after she left him. She's wondering how much longer would she have waited if she didn't break up. She also feels like this is a forced marriage where he'll end up resenting her. She's not done processing all this. She accepted it but isn't sure about proceeding with the wedding too soon and is still hurt. Do you think she should just let it go and follow through it (forgive and forget)? Girls if that was you and your ex boyfriend came back apologizing and proposing, would you accept it or not?

My boyfriend doesn’t agree with my moms way of thinking (my mom was persistent for my boyfriend to move in with us and sell his place), and if he doesn’t like or agree with something he’s very direct and blunt.
does this mean he dislikes my mom? Or is he just trying to correct her?

What it really was only kissing involved in the cheating (nothing else, just kissing) or an emotional affair where it's an emotional, romantic bonding. However, they never did anything physically sexual (no intercourse, no oral, no fingering, none of that) so therefore you don't have to worry about any STD.

Can that type of cheating be forgiven? We all know a full-blown affair and sex is obviously worse than kissing and romantic words. I'm wondering because some guy was forgiven for a drunken kiss. It was confirmed by others that it really was only a kiss.

He's been really distant and short lately, so I asked if there was someone else. (I have anxiety and bad past relationships) He said nope just you overthinking. But I can't help shake the feeling something is up.

If you ask a lot of guys who their best friend is they'll say their girlfriend or wife. However there's a simple experiment you can try to see if that's true. Simply lock both your dog and your wife in the car boot and go for a drive.

Which one licked your face when you opened the boot?

And no I don’t have other portions. This is my only chance to be with someone or I’ll stay alone. I don’t want this life alone.

so which if these would you choose if you were me? __________________________________________

Guy 1: tall 5’11 1/2” pretty much 6’ with any shoes on.

Very attractive face and body works out almost everyday. Nice thick dick, brown eyes

does not have a good paying job or money saved up, he only works some days when they need him.

he lives with his mom in a small apartment and she’s very sick.
he is depressed and stressed

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Guy 2: not tall. 5’8 1/2” just average

Not ugly but not super attractive. he has gray beautiful eyes

not fit. Has a round stomach but the rest of his body doesn’t look fat, just big stomach. He doesn’t workout. (never seen his dick so can’t say about that)

He has a good job. He has his own flat. Lives alone in a tourist city very nice.

he has herpes type 1 (from the mouth not genitals) he got this since he was a baby, someone passed it to him so not from sexual interaction.

he works every day and trying to grow and learn more.

My partner would say things like "you can come if your heart desires/you're more than welcome to join us if you're able to" to me the way they say things like that makes me think they don't want me to come over

Let me be clear, I was in the wrong for being so needy and anxious last week (like called every day at least twice) and so with his change at work this week and supervisor being on duty, he has a lot going on. So when I asked if HE wanted space until after his "possible promotion" this weekend, he responded with "if you think that will help you, then sure. if not just let me know because I am down with whatever works best for you!"

I am much better this week, I was asking for HIM. So how would you respond? React?

Both involved a cruel person stealing someone's market value. Men and women are obviously valued differently. When it comes to love and relationships or marriage, what's worse?

- A man that promises the world and purposely wastes the woman's time and years. Then when she gets to a certain age, she gets ditched for someone younger. Not only she doesn't get those years back but she's depressed about possibly not being able to have kids anymore. The guy destroyed her years and her motherhood. We are afterall valued for our youth and fertility. Men don't care too much about our careers.

- A golddigger makes it harder for the rest of us to find a good family-oriented man. She uses him with charm but somehow he doesn't realize what she really is like. She got what she wanted and then wants to ditch him for no reason (just that she got bored, that's it), just for monetary incentive. She gets half of what poor man's hard work, destroying his market value he worked hard for.

I really sympathize with both cases. No one deserves getting their market value destroyed by cruel narcissists. Though personally I think the first case is worse. Money can eventually be earned back even if it takes years or longer. However, once we can't have babies anymore, that's not ever gained back, literally never. If our motherhood is taken away, it's forever gone. Money isn't forever gone.

My boyfriend and I have explained to my mom several times now that I need a much better job (outside of the house that pays hourly) in order for us to move in together later on…. my boyfriend and I are in a committed relationship for over 2 years now. My boyfriend also thinks that my mom doesn’t help me out enough or pay much attention to me and why isn’t she helping me find work….

My mom gets very mad and annoyed anytime we bring the subject up to her and in private she tells me negative things ( I’m gonna get tired out, etc..) and then says why don’t I continue working from home… My mom also thinks my boyfriend is going to make me lose my “disability” benefits that I get due to the fact that I hve severe anxiety and depression and learning disability - if I end up getting a job outside the house….

is she jealous of my relationship? Or is she fearful of me moving out?

ps - everyone loves my boyfriend and he has many friends and is well liked at his job as well

You're apparently in a good relationship but suddenly you've realized there are major incompatibilities. Just love alone isn't enough. Which would be worse:

- Poor communication: You were both in the "falling in love" stage that you failed to see if they share your similar goals and values. Neither of you communicated what you wanted out of the relationship. You've just realized you share nothing in common, have arguments and there is too much drama.

- Getting lied to: You were honest about what you wanted out of the relationship, your goals, values, etc. They pretended to assimilate to your ways and lied so they wouldn't lose you. However, there comes a point they can't keep up with the lie and the truth eventually comes out. You're rightfully upset they pretended to be on your same page.