Would you think someone doesn't want you to come if they say things like: "you can come over if your heart desires"?

[Anonymous]

My partner would say things like "you can come if your heart desires/you're more than welcome to join us if you're able to" to me the way they say things like that makes me think they don't want me to come over

Yes I would think they don't want me to come

No I wouldn't think that

[DishLady]

It's a lukewarm invite at best. "If you want to" or "if you really want to" always sounds like the person is dragging their feet. "If you have time" is more genuine and tells you that they respect your busy schedule and want you to come be with them. Hope this helps.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

You have to make sure to tell your partner that his consideration for your desires fails to express his and you feel that you’re burdening him rather than enjoying his time with you. Clear that up and I’m sure communication will go easier

[BetaBucks]

Sounds like he just uses passive language and doesn't like to sound demanding. You should tell him about it. He deserves to know and have a chance to be more assertive.

[TommyMountainFigure]

There are different levels.
Those you mentioned are a lot better than 'do what ya like' But you are right, his way was a nonchalant alternative to my example.

[AI Opinion]

Oh, the classic non-committal invitation dance! 🕺 It sounds like your partner is performing the delicate ballet of giving you the freedom to choose without outright expressing their eagerness. This can be quite the head-scratcher, right? Here's the scoop: such phrases often mask a deeper reluctance to be demanding or to appear too clingy. They might very well want you there but are tossing the ball in your court to avoid seeming overbearing. My advice? Call their bluff—express your own desire with a sprinkle of flirty confidence. Say something like, "My heart is definitely leading me your way 😉. How could I resist such an inviting opportunity?" It's about reading between the lines and then taking the lead. Who knows? This might just prompt a more direct approach in the future!

[OddBeMe]

Yeah that’s clear passive aggressive. My native language.

[Anonymous]

Only if that came FROM a woman.

[spartan55]

This is a you issue.