Would you give in and open the door for someone that you told not to come over?

[DizzyDesii]

These hoes really think I’m playin. Back in school, i told my ex not to come a lot and yet he came knocking at my door. I sat there ignoring it and my mom would end up giving in. Weakass. Then my ex friend would come knocking at the door. I sat there and ignored that shit. Then she sent a letter to my mom to give to me. Ion want that shit. And now, my dad is knockin at the door while im relaxing in the tub ignoring his ass. I told y'all on that last post that i didn't want to see him. Thats on him for wasting gas to showup uninvited. he's blowing up my phone with mad texts and i dont give a lovely mother fck that ninja. He calls my mom and she's like “she should be available.” Ugh, weakass! So now i gotta ignore both my parents. He says he’ll wait for me to get home but i texted back that he’ll never see me cause im doing my own thang 🤣 #FeelFreeToList #ShowingUpUninvited

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+1 y

Omg i fckin knew it cause i heard a car stop!! im so fckin pissed rn. My mom just unlocked the house door and brought him in. I locked myself in the bathroom. They just dont understand the words fck him. And at this point its fck her too

Updates

+1 y

I told him “i dont feel sorry for asking you to leave because i asked you not to come several times and you did it anyways.” He responded “I HOPE you dont feel bad.” Lmao salty ass. And then he later texted “Sorry for being an absentee father.” I left his ass on read. Its not even about that. I just dont fck with you and anyone else outside my circle of importance 🤣 Byeee

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

WHAT THE HELL, people have to respect your boundaries even your parents. Ask them whether they enjoy seeing you hurt or stressed because clearly they do! You dont want to see that loser and thats final. You know what's best for you because its your life to live.

And to answer the question, NO. Dont ever open 💩 for an ex or anyone you told not to come over. Let them stay out there till the rapture.

I hope since they let him in he didn't come with his hands swinging. If he really needs to speak to you let the MF pay CASH, say your price. Only talk to him in public places where there are a lot of people and never go somewhere with them not even their car.

Whew this had me hot, like how dear them, ALL OF EM!

[DizzyDesii]

Til the rapture 😂 Not pay cash 🤣 Please read the full situation under gods of thunder’s opinion below

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

I've just finished reading it lol i thought it was about an ex not about your dad sorry. But I understand a bit of what you're going through. As I got older I began having issues with my father and would stop talking to him for about months and sometimes years.(Only the last 7 years he have been pissing me off like crazy) and everytime I would allow him to talk to me he knew me well enough to know I soften up to gifts and MONEY... (well he did raise me so he knows me lol).

If my father did what your father did throught my life. Everytime he meets me he has to bring money or a nice gift I'd like ( 22 years worth of missed birthday and Christmas presents + my college fee) yep that sounds reasonable if I was 27 and he stop giving me gifts at 5. Period.

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

I am drama queen and if you habe me locked in the toilet due to you not respecting my boundaries I wouldve began screaming at the top of my lungs. If they deared drag me out Id go in the middle of road and lay down and cry and bawl. Tantrum time @DizzyDessi.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao he can't buy my time with gifts 😂 I dont hate the man, i just dont care to be around him at all. Omg your tantrum reaction 🤣

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

@DizzyDesii Yeah I inderstand that your time can't be bought, people operate differently. Since it was lost time anyway I want my reparations SIR lol.

He gave up his time of being with you, now he demands your adult time... which is crazy and not the way to handle things. He should at least be doing majority of the work here and treading lightly.

I dont know what to say other than maybe just maybe let him make it up to you in a way you want it to be made up for. Let both him and your mother KNOW your BOUNDARIES. You are a busy adult, not a child.

by the way... is he dying... why now?

[DizzyDesii]

Reparations 💀😂 And i tried to give him a chance in 2020. For one, he had the nerve to ask him to help get his wife a job at my job. Two, he asked me to help pay his bills. Three, he was all in my biz about my 401k. The man sounded like a mf opportunist. Chances are gone. And yea i said the same like i hope he's not dying. But i think he's seeking comfort in his kids because he's divorcing his wife that none of the fam Ever liked anyways

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

Why is someone who was born years after his wife the one to help her find a job... what? Is he nutz why should you pay his bills... what has he been doing all these years? Amazon is hiring!!!

Okay now I more than get why you dont want a time of day with him. He wants to use you! America is full of easy jobs where a degree isn't required. Fast food chains, delivery drivers and even Amazon they pay live able wages. He just doesn't need to live beyond his means.

He knocked up your mom and left. He has to take responsibilty and take care of her and ALL of his children. He can't be nutting all over the world wth man!

[DizzyDesii]

He got fired for talking dirty at work and her real estate job suffered when covid hit. Now he has his own business doing yard work but she wanted my government job for the benefits. But now he and his wife are about to divorce since she's cheating. Also, He and my mom were engaged. My grandma didn't want anyone with my mom so she planted hair to make it look like he cheated. The broke up when i was 2. My mom found out the truth too late. He has 3 sons all born after me. Each are with a different woman that he was with for at least 2 years. He married the last but he always tries to get back with my mom since thats the only person his mom ever loved

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

Damn, sorry to say but if I was your mom I wouldve fought your grandma 💀 seriously thats crazy.

What the hell is he thinking making children with different women why not settle down then bust a nut, did he not learn?

Beggars can't be choosers, so no government work for her glad you let her figure it out.

But over all this is crazy, and it began with your grandma who shouldve caught some hands. Regardless though if your mom left him he shouldve taken care of you and be in your life. Girl... have you thrown hands at ANYONE lmao because I think of I were you I'd be fighting everybody because wtf.

[DizzyDesii]

Yea I don't know what he was doing. I thinkmy mom was the only one he was engaged to before the last. And now he's a preacher. Lmao. And I've never thrown hands at my mom. She’d knock me into yesteryear. Bt he can surely get em

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

Not you throwing hands at her, i mean her throwning hands, because if I was your mom Id fight everybody!

[DizzyDesii]

Oh yea she's crazy lmao. She ripped up my dads car when she thought he cheated. I don't know if she hit him but she's always been afraid of her mom so that wasn't happening

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

The day I found out that she planted that hair and caused a break up was the day I wouldve lost all fear. Because that was bullsht. She shouldve never spoken to her again. She is grown even to leave your grandma alone since thats what she wanted.

[DizzyDesii]

Well my grandma kicked my mom out extremely young and she had to live with aunts and uncles. My grandma came back when my mom had me and my mom let her in. My grandma had since ruined more of my moms relationships and even tried to kill someone in our family... twice. So my mom is weary of her but doesn't have it in her heart to cut the gramz off. Lmao i wouldve been cut that lady off if she was my mom 😂 Anywys, my grandma found God like in 2018 and has since straightened up. But she was very evil from 1972-2017

[Sincerly_KittyCat]

LMAO evil since 1972-2017 ... wait your grandma is young she is lile 50 this year! Your mom had you young?

[DizzyDesii]

My mom was born 1972. My grandma was born in the 50s. My grandpa was born in the 40s. Im a 90s baby

[lilyanony1]

Generally speaking I don't think it's safe to open the door.
My ex did that, banging down the door.

Another time he was sooo drunk and I did let him in to sleep it off. But I told him to sleep on the sofa or the blow up bed and at some point he tried to find his way into my bed. I was rather afraid. He actually thought this was code! Nah he was a mess and I worried for his safety going home in such a state.

He played me, knew I'd be embarrassed and knew I really loved him.

I'm not the best person and try to give people the benefit of the doubt.

But as a women you always have to think of safety first.

You know what's up!

[DizzyDesii]

Yea the ex only ever got in because of my mom. Just like how she let my dad in today against my will

[lilyanony1]

I think mum's always try to be peace keepers. Like with my dad he was good at getting my mum to see how bad things was for him.
But had he thought about x y z before maybe he might not have been in that situation you know.
Anyways you're an adult you're allowed to make your own mind up.
I hope at some point you can have a chat with her about this.
So she really knows what's going on.

[DizzyDesii]

She knows. she's messy. My whole family is. Please read what all i posted under god of thunders opinion below. You can see what happened today

[lilyanony1]

OK hun x

[lilyanony1]

Yea that's ambush. That happened to me.
I don't know what to advice. All I do know is when I eventually found out what happened with my parents I discovered that my mum lied a lot. She can't be trusted.

[DizzyDesii]

Both of mine lie a lot. Even my grandma. I told them be glad theyre even in my circle can when i move states, i can't guarantee any of them will be

[lilyanony1]

😞 I'm sorry that this is your current situation. But if it's any consolation, it will get better. Xx

[DizzyDesii]

Its definitely better cause now he sees that he was never on a pedestal in my life

[Jamie05rhs]

Wow- your mom is a really shitty guard of her offspring.

As far as me, this is my policy: you better not be coming over to MY HOUSE unless you have a f*cking appointment! (And no, I don't mean a FUCKING appointment. Get your mind out of the gutter, folks.). I don't answer random calls, random texts, or random knocks. Let me know ahead of time; otherwise your ass is getting ignored!!

[DizzyDesii]

Omg i love this 🤣

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO.

[God_of_Thunder]

Oh, hell no! I hate when people do that shit.

Sorry, not sorry; you can stand on the porch and freeze to death. You're so inconsiderate that you ignored my telling you not to come over, so I'm gonna leave your ass out there. 🖕

[DizzyDesii]

Right on. He has asked every day since last week and i told him, that last Sunday was my only free day. I didn't even want to see him then but i also forgot he had church on Sunday. So he couldnt make it. I then told him do not show up any other day because im unavailable. Yesterday he jokingly sent a text saying seeing you Tuesday. I said, im not available, you won't see me. He replied im not available either, just kidding. Mf thought i was jokin i guess because today he showed up in a rental (i peeked out the window) and i sat on the couch and let his ass knock. One day he’ll realize he's just not that important

[God_of_Thunder]

Yeah, screw that noise.

Both of my parents used to do that shit. I just leave them standing out there. My truck is there, so they know I'm home, but fuck 'em. I say "don't come over" and you still do? Sorry, but I'm not the asshole, here.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao your truck was outside 😂 Omg that makes it even funnier. With my best friend, the blinds were open and she could see me sitting there 🤣

[God_of_Thunder]

Hahaha, that is perfect! 😂

[DizzyDesii]

I feel my moms about to come bring him back here. Ima be so pissed

[God_of_Thunder]

Of she does, just yell through the door, "Sorry, I'm not home!"

[DizzyDesii]

Omg i fckin knew it cause i heard a car stop!! im so fckin pissed rn. My mom just unlocked the house door and brought him in. I locked myself in the bathroom. They just dont understand the words fck him

[God_of_Thunder]

You could try my previous idea?

"Lo siento, Desii no esta aqui! ¡Vete a la mierda!

(Sorry, Desii isn't here! Get fucked!)

[DizzyDesii]

If i was in a good mood i would but im about to go to the point of no return. I asked these mfs to not bother me today and they did. So im gonna have to let him know he doesn't mean jack shit to me and she's close to being on that same list

[God_of_Thunder]

I sympathize.

My father and I no longer speak, and our last encounter began & ended in a very similar manner.

[DizzyDesii]

Like im legit bout to cry because im so mad rn. And i try to respect my mom but for her to bring him here has made me lose all respect. Like im tryna hold in all the mean shit i wanna spit out

[God_of_Thunder]

I understand, and you have every right to be mad.

I won't say don't go off on them, because I totally understand. I don't know your relationship with your parents, but the best advice I can give you is to just be aware of how your response will affect that relationship.

Sometimes we say things that are completely justified, in the moment, but have long lasting consequences.

[DizzyDesii]

The thing is, he hasn't personally done anything to me. Yea he hasn't giving me Christmas presents since i was like 5. He hasn't said happy bday unless his mom called him to remind him. He only visits every 3 years or so. But for me, i only keep the people I've lived with in my circle. He needs to understand he's not apart of that and does not mean much to me. Its nothing against him because i feel the same About friends and anyone whos not my mom/sis/grandparents or boyfriend at the time. But my dad is being pushy today and he hasn't been a dad since i was age 2. He literally told me last week that i OWE him an hour of my time. Wtf have you ever done for me to owe you my time? You didn't even pay child support. For me, its not abour abandonment because my mom did another for me to ever forget a dad existed. But i just dont like being disrespected and he needs to leave

[God_of_Thunder]

I think you have every right to tell him that, and ask him to respect your wishes.

If he refuses, then make it clear to him that by refusing to do so, he is jeopardizing any possibility of having a future relationship with you.

[DizzyDesii]

He keeps knockin on the bathroom door and I texted him “can u please leave like i asked respectfully. Im about to lose my nice girl reputation.” I texted my mom “you really gonna ruin our relationship over this dude?”
And now i can hear her asking him to leave and he refuses. He doesn't understand no means no.

[God_of_Thunder]

Well, good on your mom for at least listening to you, at this point.

The guy sounds like a piece of work, and you have every right to ask him to leave. If he presses the issue, and really wants to cause problems, then he can be removed by force.

[DizzyDesii]

she's already broke our trust. I see her as “messy” now. And she claims he's oitside leaving but i dont hear the front door opening so theyre likely lying as usual. I wouldve totally called the cops if she wasn't here. Theyblike to tagteam People when fussing at them and she said he's telling her about when he took me to the airport in 2020. I guess this is where he tells her all the negative things i said. So i’ll probably have to deal with her wrath. Theyre both the type to drag people down with them

[God_of_Thunder]

Ugh, I'm sorry to hear that. It sounds like a very tense, frustrating situation, and I hope it all works out.

If it were me, I would just stay in there until I could be certain he's gone, just to keep from giving him the satisfaction.

[DizzyDesii]

I am. But i shouldve brought snacks 😭

[God_of_Thunder]

Aww, I'm sorry 🥺

[DizzyDesii]

Finally i hear his car leaving

[God_of_Thunder]

Great!!

Good riddance!

[DizzyDesii]

Wow my grandma just called. he's at her house crying to them saying i won't talk to him and that i just turned 26. The dumbass dont even know how old i am. My grandma dont even like him

[God_of_Thunder]

Wow, what a jackass!

[DizzyDesii]

Sorry not sorry but i think he finally realizes he's not important. Plus my grandma planted hair to break him and my mom up so she surely doesn't feel sorry for his ass 😂

[Pink2000]

😂😂😂 she saw you sitting there

[DizzyDesii]

@Pink2000 thats my moms mom. She knew the plan (dont answer the door) but is not following it either. And now he's calling his own mom to whine about the situation. she's blowing up my phone and im ignoring her too. Anybody can get it at this point

[Medicalbug]

I feel for you. I can’t imagine living with someone who lets invaders like that into your sanctuary. I sometimes just want to be alone and have had people do things like lurk outside or put notes under my door. My roommate and I never let people into our space unless we both agree to it. That’s so rude.

[DizzyDesii]

Yes its very rude and has ruined my trust with her as well now

[Medicalbug]

I hope she realizes that. What she did was not cool at all. Sorry you had to deal with it.

[DizzyDesii]

She sees nothing wrong with what she did. Everytime inquestioned it, she brushed it off or stuttered. she's messy and didn't care. Both of them out themselves on a pedestal and think they mean more to me than they do. Today i knocked that pedestal over and i think they now have a new outlook that im not fckin playing when I say dont bother me

[Medicalbug]

Yeah, it’s good that you stood up for yourself and made that clear to her. Parents are not without fault and can’t just hold themselves above standards for decent behavior.

[RedStiletto88]

My sisters, parents and I had each other’s backs when we lived together.


“I don’t want to see him’ means GO AWAY and there was never an instance where that wasn’t made clear to the jerk standing waiting for one of us.


I know I’ve screamed at nuisance guys calling on us telling them to get lost as have my sisters!

[DizzyDesii]

Thats good to have someone who has your back. Its rare

[DryGermanGuy]

"What you're doing, coming over here unannounced? You don't think you could get hurt doing that? You come in to see a fucking Broadway show, you call ahead first, see if it's okay with me."
- Detective Trupo, American Gangster

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao

[Pink2000]

“Weakass” took me out 😂😂. But if I truly don’t wanna be bothered then I’d say I’m not home to begin with. No one can get inside my apartment complex anyways without the electronic key so I dont have to worry about that.

[DizzyDesii]

Please read my responses to god of thunder lol

[humpbackjack]

Sorry you’re going through this and yeah your moms is outta bounds. This is probably going to be a rough night to say the least. Again sorry I feel for you

[DizzyDesii]

Yea the day sucked from 4pm-7pm. But its 9pm and im good now

[De_La_BakedBeans]

I personally don't ignore people, I'll at least text them and tell them to go away, but I think your parents should respect your boundaries a bit more.

[DizzyDesii]

I have a whole shitload of texts where i told him to Not come and he showed up anyways

[JosyJosy]

Nope. I will say something. And that's it. I'll keep my word, for better or worse. It annoys me how much the surprised pikachu face meme applies to people sometimes.

[DizzyDesii]

Ikr 🤣🤣🤣

[JosyJosy]

Is stupid as it sounds. If you give a cat food from the table cause it begs for it, you'll teach it that this approach works for the cat. This is no different

[DizzyDesii]

Right on

[1988fido]

dont come means dont come , if they did it = either i kick their ass or call the police if its a girl (i dont hit girls)

[DizzyDesii]

Right

[Cherry234]

Depends on who it is. For a family member, yes. I'm weak in that sense. For an ex friend I want nothing to do with, no.

[DizzyDesii]

Depends on how much I've been wronged

[CaptainLegal]

There's no way I'm opening the door, even if I wanted to open the door I couldn't, mostly because I work many hours and come home tired and go to sleep very fast plus when I'm asleep I don't hear anything

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao

[Mangospacho]

Just out of curiosity. What is your mom’s excuse when she lets him in? And does she give you a hard time for not letting him in?

Good for you, by the way, for standing your ground.

[DizzyDesii]

She had no excuse. She stuttered the whole time. And yes she gives me a hard time. The paragraph above mentions how she opened the door for my ex that she didn't know ddi fcked up things to me and all. You can read the whole convo Under god of thunders opinion

[Mangospacho]

Thanks. @god_of_thunder is an epic username by the way.

[God_of_Thunder]

@mangospacho Thanks! I appreciate that. 👍

[Mangospacho]

Yeah. He really is expecting you to respond like your mom would.

[DizzyDesii]

Its all good now. He went to his moms house so maybe she can comfort him. She started blowing up my phone and i ignored her calls too. My mom told me that he wanted to tell me his wife was cheating and that his wife now wants a divorce. Lmao i can't believe he let her file first. I’d get a camcorder and catch her ass fckin the country club grandpa that she's been fooling with 🤣 But anyways, today i feel better so i’ll let it go

[melanieeeB]

Nope not when you already told him not to come, now it's on him

[DizzyDesii]

Exactly

[melanieeeB]

And how did it go tho?

[DizzyDesii]

Read my conversation below with gods of thunder. I listed everything there as it was happening

[Phoenix98]

I mean honestly chances are I wouldn't even noticed them since I'd probably have headphones in with the volume cranked up.

[DizzyDesii]

I should use that excuse 🤣

[Phoenix98]

Lol yeah I mean I barely register noises made by people in my own house much less outside of it.

[loveslongnails]

Not if I specifically told them "no, don't come over!"

[DizzyDesii]

Right

[Anonymous]

Girl, you’re a hot mess. Why would your father just show up out of the blue? Then your mom opens the door for him? Why does she have a key to your place? Set some boundaries for God’s sake.

[DizzyDesii]

He showed up because today was a special day for me. But doesn't matter now. I asked him not to be apart of it and he tried to force his way in.

[Opinion Owner]

That’s messed up. You would think he would call ahead and ask if it’s okay if he comes over, or schedule some time to meet up when you’re free. Definitely not taking your privacy and life into consideration. Glad you’re doing better now.

[DizzyDesii]

He texted daily all last week asking to come through and i kept kindly declining. So yes he came anyways. Read my full convo below with Gods of Thunder to see the full story

[strawhatEli]

Depends on the mood, if I'm pissed, I won't do it, otherwise I may.

[DizzyDesii]

Even if im calm i won't

[beebella]

If I told them NOT to come over and they come over anyway, I'm going into hiding. 😂

[DizzyDesii]

Which is what im doing. I've locked myself in the bathroom for like an hour now. He keeps knockin on the bathroom door and I texted him “can u please leave like i asked respectfully. Im about to lose my nice girl reputation.” I texted my mom “you really gonna ruin our relationship over this dude?” Because she unlocked the house door to let him in. And now i can hear her asking my dad to leave and he refuses. He doesn't understand no means no.

[beebella]

Omg. I'd threaten to call the cops if I were you.

[DizzyDesii]

I would have if my mom wasn't with him. He finally left and ran to my grandmas house to cry. She doesn't even like him cause she planted stuff to make it look like he cheated on my mom

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Depends. If its a girl I like, maybe except I have a sitch at my house and dont need another person be there in my way

[DizzyDesii]

Why would you tell the girl you like not to come over

[Fromdusktilldawn]

Maybe you didn't get my point. I am almost never alone in the house and I dont really want an unwanted encounter and do explanations. And also there won't ever be a girl coming to my place

[DizzyDesii]

Oh i get it

[collie22]

i'd ask my brother to get rid of them if that happened

[DizzyDesii]

Ooooo body guard material

[collie22]

yeah he looks out for me

[douride2]

If I don't want to see you I'm not going to let you in.

[DizzyDesii]

Right on

[SmokyOne]

Nah boundaries are important. Give em an inch and they will take a mile.

[DizzyDesii]

Right. Hoes dont even get a meter outta me

[SmokyOne]

My stupid brain took that the wrong way

[DizzyDesii]

😂😂😂

[SmokyOne]

Ugh I wish I could post pictures, found the perfect meme!

[DizzyDesii]

Copy the meme link then paste here. It works

[SmokyOne]

https://images.app.goo.gl/i5BHiLkzpmbAqoHc8

[SmokyOne]

[SmokyOne]

Got it. Woo-hoo go me!

[DizzyDesii]

💀💀💀.

[SmokyOne]

See. Perfect 🥰

[nawtee_me]

You need you own house with an unlisted address and phone number... lol 🙈🙉🙊

[DizzyDesii]

Im tryna go off the grid 🤣

[imfreeze95]

Depending on who it was I might point a gun in there face

[lrina]

did he finally leave? :(

[DizzyDesii]

Lol read the conversation i had with gods of thunder. The whole story is in those messages

[VaguelyAsianLisbeth]

people should respect privacy

[DizzyDesii]

Parents feel they dont have to

[exitseven]

I would be polite and let them in.

[DizzyDesii]

Blahh lmao

[exitseven]

Ask your father if you can borrow a hundred bucks from him. You will never see him again.

[DizzyDesii]

Dude he asks ME for money when he hasn't even given me shit since I was 2. I left that mf standing outside where a dog belongs

[exitseven]

Even better. Loan him 20 bucks and you won;t see him again. Best 20 bucks you ever spent.

[DizzyDesii]

Or just ignore him and show him he ain't shit and he can leave like he finally did when i refused to see him

[Uptowngirl88]

If they had food and netflix yes 🤣

[DizzyDesii]

Nah i rather buy my own

[Uptowngirl88]

I dont turn down anything free🤣. Free meals, free trips, free massage, free man , free everythang

[pizzalovershouse]

I never went to my exs not less invited

[DizzyDesii]

Yea but this ain't about the ex. That was an example. This is about my sperm donor

[pizzalovershouse]

Ok but I'm single an not seeing any one so when I was seeing some one is what I meant

[Balbal]

If ex then don't if present then yes.

[DizzyDesii]

This was more so about my dad

[ALewis30]

Unless it's something series, no.

[DizzyDesii]

Like what

[ALewis30]

They need someone to talk too, or a family member has pass away

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i initially misread it

[sattii2607]

Well I value people over my ego.

[DizzyDesii]

Well if people dont value you in return, its best to go with your ego 🤷‍♀️

[sattii2607]

Hmm doesn't work when the people in question are your loved ones ,😂

[DizzyDesii]

Yea it does, as seen above

[sattii2607]

Hmmm

[Agape93]

Nope

[DizzyDesii]

Just read my response to Gods of Thunder. I just had an intense showdown 🤣

[Agape93]

I see that o. o