I'm so afraid of death and hell, what can I do?

[Anonymous]

I was raised in an oppressive muslim family, they always brainwashed me. When I was 20, I came across lots of atheist arguments on the internet and researched my religion islam deeply, read the quran and hadiths, and finally I understood that it is a big lie. And quran is full of bullshit, violence, scientific errors and muhammad's sexual life and fantasies. So I am sure that quran is not the word of the god. And I am an agnostic for the last 7 years.

But because of the way I was raised by my family, society, relatives and government... I am still afraid of hell, what if these kind of bullshits is true? I am 100% sure they are not true, but it gave me traumas I guess.

I always thought other people in other countries were going to hell because they don't believe in islam and Allah.

How can I get rid of this trauma?

[sejla]

Therapy. This isn't just Islam this happens in some Christian churches too.
The concept of Hell in the afterlife was created to keep people in check on earth. It's like Dante's Inferno. I believe there is heaven and hell but both can happen now in our lives on Earth. Some of it we can't control and some of it we can.

I know this sounds simplistic but you just can't worry about the afterlife. I do believe we continue existing in some way after we die but in what way who knows.

When one has grown up thinking things are haram or sinful (well somethings are wrong to do like murder) it's ingrained in every day life in what you eat, how many times you pray, who you love, etc. etc. etc. That might be why it is harder to make the mental break. Leaving Islam is the ultimate Haram act as well as questioning if God exists.

If you remember if a lot of people walk the fake walk of pretending to be a good Muslim while not being a good Muslim than maybe you will give yourself some grace.

I think maybe the key to releasing this fear is forgiving the people around you that imposed a religion you felt restricted you. For other people in your life it works but for you it doesn't and just be ok with that.

Release the anger you might be harboring and you live your life the way you want to. Maybe the anger is what is making you fear that your future is hell. Get therapy work through this and go enjoy your life.

[SmolKat]

Well, the first thing you have to do is truly be open to the possibility that these things exist. Heaven and hell are 100% real and we will all live forever one way or the other.

Its not true that there are many ways to heaven, there is only one true Way and that is through the belief that Jesus paid for our sin-debt with His Blood on the cross. God the Father is a God of love and will reveal Himself to you if you truly seek Him with your whole heart. Once you let Him into your heart, He gives you a peace beyond all understanding and will heal any trauma you might have. Of course it may take some time depending on how much there is.

[Asker]

I am not afraid of Christians hell, i am afraid of islam's hell. Christianity does not affect me since i am not raised by it

[SmolKat]

There is no distinction between "Christian" hell or "Islamic" hell, there is only one hell and all nations and creeds are subject to it unless they believe on the name of the Son of God.

[Asker]

Son of god idea makes me laugh and it is funny as hell

[Trolloween]

This is why I consider indoctrinating children to be child abuse.

You're definitely not alone, you could look on the Richard Dawkins website as they have many resources and groups for people like you. There's likely people who've been through the same who can tell you what helped them.

[gagsucs]

jus dont do anything really bad like kill someone,
then u won't go to hell,

u can do little bad things like have sex or steal from shops... u will be ok and won't go to hell... u only go to hell if u do something really bad

[gagsucs]

also masturbation is fine

[Solitude_asian]

“The dead know nothing at all.” (Ecclesiastes 9:5) When we die, we cease to exist and are conscious of nothing at all. Death is the opposite of life.

People who die are acquitted of, or pardoned for, their sins.
"For the one who has died has been acquitted from his sin."
(Romans 6:7) There is no further punishment for sin after a person dies.

Ecclesiastes 9:10 states that “there is no work nor planning nor knowledge nor wisdom in the Grave, where you are going.” The Bible also explains what happens to both humans and animals at death. It says: “All are going to the same place. They all come from the dust, and they all are returning to the dust.”—Ecclesiastes 3:20.

So when someone dies, his feelings and memories do not keep on living somewhere else. * When we die, we can’t see, we can’t hear, and we can’t think anymore.

There"s no eternal hellfire to torture us. The hellfire mentioned in the Bible is symbolic, not literal! God is love and will not torture unbelievers and unrighteous people in eternal hellfire. That is a big lie told by Satan!

[Asker]

So you are a Christian but you don't believe in afterlife?

[Solitude_asian]

Correct.

[Solitude_asian]

So are you still scared of punishment after death?

[Asker]

No thanks to you, my baby :)

[Solitude_asian]

So did you do that make you so scared of being roasted in hell? Lol.

[Asker]

Lol i didn't get it. What did I do?

[Solitude_asian]

I meant did you commit sins that make you so scared of being roasted in a fiery hell? Lol.

Nice to hear that you are researching deeply into religions to make sure of all things cos it is a lifetime commitment for a lot of people who have a religion.

[Asker]

Lol no. I never did a very bad thing, I only drink alcohol or have some adultery sometimes that is bad according to religions.

Yes, I love to research deeply, especially on my old religion because I was raised by its fears. But I am not afraid of Christianity since we are too far away from that culture. But I wonder something, you talk like an atheist too, what kind of Christian you are? So bad or good people, they are all going to end up in non-existence in your opinion?

[Solitude_asian]

Billions of people who have died in ignorance of God’s requirements will benefit from a resurrection and will receive instruction for life in God’s new world in a future earthly paradise.

" Do not be amazed at this, for the hour is coming in which all those in the memorial tombs will hear his voice and come out, those who did good things to a resurrection of life, and those who practiced vile things to a resurrection of judgment."(John 5:28,29)

I am a Christian. I believe in a creator and Jesus's ransom sacrifice but I don't attend churches. I don't believe that Jesus is God, don't believe in Trinity, don't believe that all good people go to heaven, don't believe in hellfire, don't celebrate Christmas etc. Jesus is God's son, Jesus isn't God.

[Solitude_asian]

Where are you from? A Muslim country?

[Asker]

I got it. Thanks for your answer. I am from Turkey, semi secular and semi muslim country. Born in one of the most free cities in Turkey but my parents are religious muslims. Just bad luck. Where are you from?

[Solitude_asian]

But unrighteous people who are destroyed by God in the coming Armageddon will have no resurrection and no hope of eternal life. Losing eternal life is punishment for sins cos eternal life is a gift from God.

[Solitude_asian]

I am from Singapore.

[Asker]

Lots of people say that Singapore is a nice and happy country. What do you think? What are the pros and cons?

[Solitude_asian]

So the penalty for sins is death and losing the hope of everlasting life on the future paradise earth, and not being tormented in eternal hell. This is a lie told by Satan.
God is love and will never do such a cruel thing!
Singapore is very clean and green, has good public order, people here are well-educated and it is free from natural disasters. Got shopping malls every 1km.
But everything here is so expensive and you will be put to jail if your refuse to serve the army cos of neutrality issue. It is a good place to live for the wealthy.

[Solitude_asian]

11.30pm. Gonna sleep now. Hope I have helped you a little here, lol. Good night.

[Asker]

You guys look like japanese people in general right? City pics of your country look great on google. You are a developed country from what I can tell.

[Asker]

Good night, your chat was nice!

[Solitude_asian]

Yeah, I am a Singaporean Chinese. Japanese, Koreans and Singaporean Chinese have similar looks cos we are Chinese too. Yeah, Singapore is the world's third richest country but got no full freedom for religious worship. So if you want to participate in a religion that don't serve the army or go to wars due to your conscience and love for people, you will be imprisoned.

[Solitude_asian]

that doesn't*

[ShadowofRegret]

You see through the lies, but you still fear Hell, because it is real, if Hell were a lie, it would not bother you, but it does, because you know deep down that it does exist.

But you will not find the answers with a dead man, but only with Christ will you find the answers you seek.

[winterfox10]

The best way to lose your fear of death is to live your life with intention. So to use things that you would be familiar with as a reference; think of something like a personal jihad that is focused on personal goals, as opposed to living out a calling from Allah. I've almost died 5 times, I'm not scared of death. I'm not scared of death because I know without a shadow of doubt that I can leave this world knowing that I made a positive difference.

[tdh1802]

With all the hate and problems going on in the world.
Have you ever considered we are already in hell. Cause how can hell be any worse?
Just something to philosophically consider.

[MannySimms]

That's why they start when You're a kid. Freud was right.

[Agape93]

It takes time. I suggest talking to those skilled in deprogramming former cult members.

[Asker]

Do they can cure social anxiety too?

[Agape93]

Nope but they can help with any religious after effects like fearing the cult was correct

[standingUP]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/FZimOSrRJN0

FEAR NOT HE HAS YOU

[omgrey]

Start something with, "what the hell!" And do what you want to do. by the way, why are you scared of it if you don't believe it.

[omgrey]

Ok sorry I'm dumb

[Asker]

Even though I know it is all bullshit, maybe my subconscious doesn't think so

[omgrey]

Have you ever talked to professional? I'm muslim and I believe it (hell/heaven) but I don't care and I think I'll get sent to hell.

[Anonymous]

Why be scared of it you can probably come and haunt people when you are dead and have some fun with those who made your life hell when you were alive

[genericname85]

Hell doesn't exist so no need to be scared. Death itself is scary but try thinking back to the time before you existed. Does that scare you?

[outside_Toronto]

You didn't research as deeply as you think you did. Keep reading

[Asker]

For the last 7 years, I never quit reading AND Im sure religion is bullshit, I make fun of it and I even drink alcohol or have sex sometimes.

[outside_Toronto]

If you did this and you truly believe what you were reading than the fear would have subsided.