She's a muslim, he's an agnostic. Is there any hope for them?

[Anonymous]

I am a muslim girl who fell in love with "Brayden" an agnostic man. We love each other. My family expects me to marry a muslim man and have a muslim child. But I really love this man. My family and religion would not approve of such a marriage. I think I could never love a muslim man the way I loved Brayden. What path should I follow? 🥺
by the way my English is not good at all, sorry if I said something wrong.

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+1 y

Enough. Don't say anything about me being under 18 anymore.

[slatyb]

Watch “The Big Sick.” How religious are you? Is Islam something you believe or just something you go along with? Are you living in a Western country? We can’t tell how your parents will react. You are still a minor. When you are 18 you can do as you please.

[Asker]

Frankly, I'm not religious, I'm just trying to fit in with the people around me.

[slatyb]

Then it sounds like a good match. You aren't a "Muslim girl", you are a girl with Muslim parents. "Your family and religion" -- it's not your religion, it's theirs. I can't tell you what to do about your family, but it's your life, not theirs. If you are in a Western country you are free to choose your own partner regardless of your parent's wishes.

[Asker]

I get it, this explanation made me feel good. I live in Turkey. I don't know if my family should know this, but if my father knew about it, he would definitely object to our relationship.

[slatyb]

Your best source for advice would be other Turkish women who feel as you do. All I can really tell you is that you are not alone. I wish you all the best. Is Branden local to you? Are you planning to attend university? Would it be possible for you to do that in another country? Your English is fine.

[Asker]

I'm undecided whether to go to university or not. I don't know what will happen in the future. Normally, the name Brayden is very rare in our country. Thank you..

[Anonymous]

Yeah you could just respect each other's different opinions and good luck

[Guy13]

Not unless he wants to become Muslim. No scoot-scoot. No Family, from either side, endorsement. Shunning from all perspectives, what a horrible way to live ‼️

[FýrdracaDócincel]

NOT the one that leads to your head rolling around on the floor.

[Asker]

Can you be a little clearer?

[FýrdracaDócincel]

There's nothing you can do.
I tried to make things work with a girl who my parents didn't approve of and failed.

And I'm a GUY..
.. a guy who isn't part of a religion that's known for killing children who don't comply.

What hope do you think you have?
I'm sorry but it's not sustainable.

[OfDeath]

I don't know why, but I've read the title like an Avril Lavigne song

[Asker]

OK. Sorry, but this is not a helpful enough answer.

[jshm2]

It's just infatuation, kiddo. You'll grow out of it.

[Erron_Black]

You cannot marry someone who does not believe in God in Islam. Before your family, the religion of Islam does not allow this. Even a Muslim woman cannot marry a Christian or a Jew. you say you are muslim? learn your religion first. or you will obey the orders of your religion. Or if you marry that man, you will commit adultery for the rest of your life.

[Asker]

You can't give me orders, I'm just asking to be sure. I'm sorry, but I'm not following orders.

[Erron_Black]

are you stupid I don't give orders. God giving orders. If you're not going to follow orders, then go get married. what are you asking? you will commit adultery for life

[Tanisa]

You're under 18 and yet you talk about marrying. I understand again why Islam is bad news

[Asker]

After I turned 18. And that's not the point. Can you answer without distorting the subject?

[Tanisa]

Honey, don't get me wrong. That's just because I'm disgusted with Islam.. I would tell your friend to pretend to be a muslim until after marriage, otherwise it's impossible for you marry him.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Send me nudes and I will decide.

[Asker]

There's no need for nastiness. Don't make empty comments, you won't be helpful, get out!

[D_Bone_Steak]

Why would your nudes be nasty? But if you want a real answer... follow your own path. Don't let others decide the choices you want to make.

[Anonymous]

Do you live in his country?

[Asker]

Yes.

[Opinion Owner]

what country is that

[Asker]

Turkey.

[Opinion Owner]

where is he from?

[Asker]

Are you asking what city he is from?