Well honestly dating is one of the hardest and most complicated things that we are faced with. Nothing brings out a persons insecurities more than the dating process. So I think God, if you choose to believe, has given you all the tools you need to find successes in life. But how you use these tools is completely up to you. I mean if God did not want you face struggle in life he would of made it so...
At the end of the day you can not rely on external sources, yes you can use what ever means you have at your disposal to guide you in the direction you want to go... but at the end of the day you have to do some serious and honest self reelection on yourself and change the things about you that will allow you to become the best version of yourself possible. Sometimes this means challenging some of those believes while still being true to yourself... but if you are constantly doing the the same things and find the same results then you have to change something about your approach.
Now take God out of it for the moment... most people tend to think they know what they want, but wanting something may not always be what they need or find. So put your wants aside for a moment and really focus on what it is you need and appreciate those things more when you find them... even if it is not always exactly what you think you want. I never have found a women that gives me all my wants... but I have found amazing women who cover all my needs and more... and in accepting that I have found true happiness.
Patience is important. There's a reason we don't always get what we want when we want. Because we want it at a time that is not God's time. But patience also ties in with acceptance. Accepting that now is not the time is JUST as important. I felt the same way you did for a while. Then when I learned to accept that God's plan was what I needed to focus on, I learned to still desire a wife and family, but accept that God will reward me when I am ready. In the mean time, I work on making sure I stay close with God in prayer, service, reading His word, and not dismissing my desire, just quietly waiting for it.
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Hm that’s a hard topic to discuss
If you want to find someone you have to tell
close people you know to arrange you guys they find fit for you. Finding a partner is like finding a good job , you have to “haunt” for it. Even if you are looking online be real state you want to find someone for XYZ purpose etc etc.
if you have exhausted all this then keep looking still. I noticed your age don’t fall into those lies that you are getting old and all this shit. You are young and you deserve the best. Even if you are 60 years old always look the best for you and your life. Never settle for less.
I personally better die alone then rush into a relationship just so I make my parents happy or society happy.
This is your life at the end of the day or end of life you will give answers to god about your life why you did things wrong , you can’t say I did it for the society or my parents right?
This life is given for you, to you , about you
So smash it as you want it
Dear Person,
I think God has already lead the way. It is you whose has not taken the path before you. For you want a husband, it is in your hand. It is not God that didn't give, it is you that didn't take action to find and grasp hold of a husband (Sorry, no offense).
In simpler term, work harder to find a husband. I suppose, a dating app is the way to go (be cautious of scammers). The other was at the bars (otherwise, places where you regularly frequent that have single men). There is no doubt that it is harder to find a husband after 25~30. So, the best targets are those divorcee. It takes a lot of efforts to build a relationship with men. Remember, there is no perfect husband.
Humbly, Humble Stranger.
You have to make things happen. Things don't happen because you wish it to be so. I think that fellow you spoke to was wrong. Seeking "God’s Kingdom" has nothing to do with starting a family. If that search is relevant to your life, it is a separate issue. You'll have a family if you seek to have a family. Opportunities come your way, and you have to act. If you reject all of your opportunities, you won't get what you want. I'm not saying that you should lower your standards, but maybe you should reevaluate your criteria. You'll never find what you seek if you demand perfection.
Personally I don't believe in god and don't think that he exists, but with everything else... from nothing, comes nothing.
You can't just sit around and wish for the best, you also have to do something and move towards your goals and make a true effort.
A brutal truth is, there is no god. Accept that.
Next, it's good you do donations and all, but don't give it to religious place, instead look for a good charity and donate to them. Not always as money but food and cloths does help a lot.
And finally, go out, spend time with people, socialize, that's how you find someone. And just keep an open mind. You can never find "that ideal guy"
Because if there is a god it has its own plan and so doesn't take requests from its pawns. But in all likelihood there isn't a god, and so you need only to figure out how to earn the things that you want. Mind, the threshold for "earning" can vary due to things beyond your control, but also due to things within your control.
"Years ago a guy told me" And now your blaming god for not fulfilling this promise?
That's like me saying if you give me 10 bucks, a guy named Bob will teleport in front of you as soon as I'm out of your sight and he'll give you 100 bucks.. And now when you don't see either me or Bob, you blame Bob for it.
Aight listen, Gods great and he answers all prayers just we have too high of expectations. Sometimes its you're not as close to God as you should be and I ain't either. Ill pray about it. You do have to see it before you receive it. Listen to Andrew Womack
God doesn’t give people things in this life as a boon for worship, rewards are reserved for the afterlife. You must put considerable effort into seeking your goals even if it’s simply building a family, good luck and never give up or give in to loneliness it sucks I know.
Clearly you're not ready. God gives you what you need not necessarily what you want. And you might serve God better single.
Perhaps He already has. It can be a simple matter of how you define family. A family doesn't always have to be a spouse and children. A family can be a group of people that treat each other with kindness and love and watch out for each other.
God hasn't granted your request because God isn't real. The guy who told you that just repeated something he had been told by someone repeating something they had been told all the way back to the guy who just made it all up.
Just because it hasn’t happened doesn’t mean it’s never going to happen.
I don’t know.. sometimes praying seems to work other times it doesn’t. I prayed for my relationship to work and to last. And instead I got dumped and ghosted.
It is like the song, "When You Believe." They don't always happen when you ask, but who knows what miracles you can achieve when you believe.
Not his timing. He either said no or wait a while. Sometimes we have not done certain things yet in life for God to give us something like that
Maybe because he might give you something even more. That happens sometimes
God won't send you a husband in a package to your door. put yourself in situations where you meet guys and then God will introduce him to you.
Maybeee just maybe you can forget about praying about it and go meet someone
Perhaps you are placing so much faith that God will do things in your life, that you aren't living in a way to allow him to make those things happen.
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