Fiancé does not want a catholic church wedding but I and my family do?

[Anonymous]

The issue is my family wants a Catholic Church wedding and her family does not. It’s a weird situation which I cannot understand because her brother just got married and baptized there kid because his wife’s side is also religious. My finance is insisting she does not want to get married in the church and she wants the ceremony at the venue.. I’ve tried to reason with her by saying she can pick any venue or choice or anything she wants just give me one hour for the ceremony. She Is also allegedly catholic but her family is not religious at all. I’m trying to avoid issues with my parents already and trying to find a middle ground. She wants 2 ceremonies then if we do the church but that also makes no sense! What makes it even more weird she has no issue baptizing and doing everything else when we have a kid.. the logic does not add up for me.

[Anonymous]

The Answer is this:

She has a vision of what she wants. The church is irrelevant. It could be mansion and she would say the same if it doesn't match her vision.

Stop thinking logically. Nothing has to make sense. Figure out the answer and do it. Stop needing logic. by the way this is a warning sign to you and her that you guys might wanna getting your life visions to link up nicely... Y'all might wanna develop a system for handling such situations as well. Marriage isn't a game sport. You gotta have a plan of what you want. DO NOT WING IT nor wait

[Guy13]

What are you doing marrying unequally yoked. Do you not read your Bible as what does righteousness have to do with unrighteousness besides heartache and pain.

[Guy13]

2 Corinthians 6:14-18 is the one I paraphrased as I could not remember it verbatim... 1Corinthians 7:39... Wife is bound to husband as long as she lives. Nonbeliever know that? Deuteronomy 7:3-4 you shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for their sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods (Flesh/Self/World being one of many idols).

[likelyOK]

This may be a dealbreaker being married in the church is also important to me. This shows you she’s not religious so while she claims to be raised in the faith she might actually not follow it. It’s a very important consideration if you intend on having children bc she may not want them to be raised within the Catholic Church. It will be painful but I would deeply consider this before marrying her.

[Asker]

Well her brother who just got married 2 years ago he agreed to have the church wedding because of his wife’s family and there’s been no issues and they recently baptized there daughter. The only issue supposedly is she doesn’t want a church wedding but she will do everything else.. makes no sense to me

[likelyOK]

I would ask for an explanation and if she is agreeing to baptize the children then I would get a promise that she would raise them in the Church. Also is she still willing to have a priest but just wants a venue?

[Asker]

Yeah she just wants it at the venue all at one spot.. she told me I could bring the priest or whoever I want..

[likelyOK]

That doesn’t sound so bad, it’s up to you. Are you guys taking Pre Cana Classes? I’m not engaged but I’m looking into them now for research. Praying 🙏🏽 for a good marriage (hopefully no Too far away) and many Blessing to you as well

[Asker]

Thank you very much. And we’ll it will be without the sacrament only a blessing a believe if I have a priest come from outside the church. My research says our future child can still be baptized which was my most concern..

[Liliuati]

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[LazerBean]

Who is paying for the wedding?

[Asker]

We don’t know yet. Most likely us.

[LazerBean]

If you're paying and it means a lot to you, then keep pushing for it. But honestly this marriage isn't going to work out. Religious people marrying fake religious people never does.

[Asker]

Yeah I’ll try.. her brother who just got married 2 years ago he agreed to have the church wedding because of his wife’s family and there’s been no issues and they recently baptized there daughter. The only issue supposedly is she doesn’t want a church wedding but she will do everything else.. makes no sense to me. She keeps looking at everyone else and her friends how they got married outside at the venue