How do you know whether it’s God’s will for you to remain single or to marry?

[Anonymous]

I feel like I’d rather be married than single, but that I could live contentedly either way. I struggle not with most sins, as life and faith in God has beaten them out of me over time. I have one that I really struggle with. I have a relatively low sex drive, as in I only think about sex once a week. But it gets so bad that I can’t sleep and I just itch down there; and ache until I satisfy the urges myself. Each time I sincerely apologise to God for my sin, but I do struggle a little bit with lust. I also look at men when I’m on dates or working and feel lust for attractive men and get crushes. I’m also concerned with looking nice, whereas I noticed my friends wanting to stay single don’t have these feelings in their bodies or thoughts. What am I being called for? Single or married life?

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8 mo

I’m not mocking religion, or sexuality or trying to be perverted. I don’t know how to know which gift I’m meant to have, the gift of singleness or marriage. All I know is I struggle with the sin of lust.

[Anonymous]

You don't know. I remember being told by the doctor I couldn't ever fall pregnant yet God blessed me with a beautiful baby this year.

My uncle who is in his 50's had given up on ever finding love but he found love for the first time ever 3 years ago. This is a guy who also went many years without ever working because he was a full time carer and he also didn't want a job but when he got a job to his surprise he actually loved the job and wanted to work.

None of us know what plans God has for us or when those plans will happen.

[Siri137]

Oh for goodness' sake! Why is it always sex that's considered to be "sinful"? Hmm? You don't need to "struggle with lust"; just accept it and move on. You're only causing yourself unnecessary grief by believing all that nonsense.

God doesn't care about people's sex lives. I mean, come on, give him/her/it more credit than that! You're making God out to be a nosy perv.

[AlbantheGreat]

In my country, we have a proverb:"God helps those who help themselves".

Well, in a relationship, you need sexual desire in your couple. But the lust is the sexual desire without love, and you can love in a marriage. And christianity loves married couples.

Well, your friends are your friends, you are you. If your friends don't want to be in relationships, great for you, but should you follow their example? You aren't married to your friends.

[Asker]

Does God want me to marry, if I’m having these feelings?

[AlbantheGreat]

Genesis 2:22-24:"Then the Lord God made a woman from the rib[h] he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
23 The man said,
“This is now bone of my bones
and flesh of my flesh;
she shall be called ‘woman,’
for she was taken out of man.”
24 That is why a man leaves his father and mother and is united to his wife, and they become one flesh."
Genesis 1:27-28:"So God created mankind in his own image,
in the image of God he created them;
male and female he created them.
28 God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and increase in number; fill the earth and subdue it. Rule over the fish in the sea and the birds in the sky and over every living creature that moves on the ground.”"

Genesis 2:18:"he Lord God said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.”"

Jesus said “Whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual immorality causes her to commit adultery” (Matthew 5:32)
So, men are and women are one flesh, are fruitful (have babies together probably), and Jesus is pretty much against for the divorce except for sexual immorality, so he's pretty much for the mariage.

Who can really know God's will, what he wants of you? He wants men and women to be one flesh, to be fruitful, in general
. The mariage is a human institution, but it's maybe the best solution for unperfect creatures the humans are, and the christian churches, who interpret God's Will, all say the mariage is good.
According to Wikipedia, "From the earliest days of the Christian faith, Christians have viewed marriage as a divinely blessed, lifelong, monogamous union between a man and a woman."
Nowadays, "Many Protestants consider marriage to be a sacred institution or "holy ordinance" of God. Catholic and Eastern Orthodox Christians consider marriage as a holy sacrament or sacred mystery".
So, for christians, which interpret God's will, the marriage is a blessing.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

An extreme few of the world's population can go without sex and a desire for sex.

The Bible talks about that singleness is a gift from God, but 99% of people don't possess that gift.

The fact you have a desire for a husband and sex is a clear indication you should get married.

[strateguy632]

once a week is common. god wants most people to marry so assume you are included in majority.

[inhua]

no one knows. God's timetable for everyone is different

[Lara_Croft]

Pastor Jp Pokluda says it's simple. Are you single or married and then you'll know the answer

[Anonymous]

God has given us free will.

[In_Trance]

Wait and see