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So there's a girl at work who's always flirting/talking with me and toughing my hand at weird times while looking me straight in the eye (which is kind of awkward). But anyway, I want to ask her if she'd like to go somewhere nice, like this new restaurant that servers innovative food in my town.

I'm thinking about either buying her flowers first and asking her or just straight up asking her. The biggest issue is that she's married and she might already be having a date with her husband. I'm not really sure how to go about this cause she def flirts with me A LOT, but I don't know if it's just her teasing and trying to have fun throughout the workday or if she finds me attractive.

"We don't have money". I first heard that when I was 9 years old. I couldn't have candy or pepsi cola or juice or something to eat at school.

This grew into a bigger problem over time. I had less clothes to wear by the age of 12. I walked with holes in shoes and one time the shoes were even openly exposing my feet and I walked like that to school in Germany. Got bullied and mobbed.

I brought this up several times to my parents and I felt either ignored, dismissed or attacked (they were toxic and abusive). I picked up on that pattern of outcome and that it's pointless to ask for new clothes, shoes and food for lunch. So I stopped asking and could do nothing but let life proceed and focus on fast forwarding my life until I could make my own money while feeling like I was set on fire from poverty. I was 15 years old when I stopped asking. I considered getting money and essentials is on me and no one else (duh!).

It also got me thinking on a secondary question. If i were to go on a date with a girl and she asks about my childhood and I say it like it is, would that send her running away from me?

I think there may be some misconceptions, particularly about guys, not really wanting a LTR. So. . . when you are dating, do you have the idea that if you find the right partner (and if they feel the same way,) you are willing to settle into a long term relationship? Or are you closed to that possibility? I am NOT asking if you start every first date thinking or even hoping that this person is THE ONE; I am just asking if you are open to a committed relationship if you meet the right partner.