So I was texting this guy in December and we would text consistently. One day we were playing iMessage games and decided to add dares to them, so the loser would have to do a dare. It got very sexual really quickly, next thing you know we’re both talking dirty. He texted as if he wanted to meet up. He would say things like oh I can’t wait to see you in person and during this time he was out of town. So he even told me what date he would be back in town. And I know this guy, this isn’t a stranger I met online. I’ve known him since August, whenever we are around each other, I would always catch him staring. We’ve had small interactions before, but this was our first time, actually texting each other and getting to know one another. He even texted saying “you must be really comfortable with me” and and I asked him “do you want me to be comfortable with you because I can back off” and he said “I’m not saying that.” In general, it would seem like this guy has an attraction towards me and I don’t really care if all he wanted was sex. but now he’s acting weird, now our conversations are very short. He leaves me on delivered for several days. I texted him on New Year’s asking if he had plans that Friday and he just read it on Tuesday. He left me on read and did not reply. there were two times where he posted something on his Instagram, and I asked if he wanted to hang out, and he ended up deleting those posts, and not responding to my request to hang out. there was one conversation we had on Instagram and I ended up leaving him on seen because all he said was OK. Just thought it was fair since I would always be left on delivered. Another thing is he’s always watching my story. He’s normally like the first one, so I guess i’m confused on why he would stare so much and talk all that dirty talk, but then ignore my request to hang out
3 mo
Why doesn’t he want to meet up?
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Sounds like this guy is acting real flaky. My best guess is he just wanted a hookup over text but gets weird about actually meeting up. Some guys are like that - they'll say all the right stuff online to get a girl interested but then bail when it comes time for the real deal. It's kinda lame but pretty common, unfortunately.
A few possibilities for his behavior:
- He's got a girlfriend/something holding him back from actually following through.
- He lost interest once the thrill of sexting was over.
- Got scared of an actual connection and is avoiding now.
- Not actually that into you and was just bored/horny texting.
I'd say don't waste your time chasing him anymore. Clearly he's not man enough to communicate properly. You can do better than a wishy-washy guy! Plenty more fish and all that. Maybe he'll come around again when he's bored but I wouldn't hold my breath if I were you. On to the next one - you'll find someone worth your time.
Honey, leave him alone. Move on. Ignore him. Block him. If he wanted to just talk about sex... he's looking for a hook up. A man will only play the chase game so long & then he'll tire & move on. He's lost interest, so chalk it up as a loss & move onto other things/options. Sometimes it's not worth asking the why's. If he wasn't meeting your energy about meeting up, spending time & getting to know you, leave him in the dust & keep moving forward. Be grateful you didn't sleep with Jim, you'd regret or if this is how he's acting. Thank the Lord for the blessing!
There is a thing called talking, it was once popular. Give it a go.
i’ll talk to him in person if given the opportunity, don’t worry ;)