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We are dating 3 months, we agreed to exclusively date 1 month into seeing each other.
Around 2 months we became sexual. He's very affectionate in private. He's shy and doesn't do PDA much, but will kiss/hug/hold hands during outdoor walks/hikes.

Before the first date we both said what we want and they align pretty well: marriage, kids and committed long term. This has not changed for either.

We go on dates: morning hikes, drinks at bar, afternoon dog walks etc.
He has no family so I have not met anyone, mine is very traditional (so I can't tell them about him yet), he has casually met some of my friends. He usually comes to me and we are both on tight schedules so honestly haven't felt like sharing him with other people- so we haven't really had a double dates or hanging out with friends.

I've been to his place, mostly he comes to me, picks me up and drives me to date locations, he is good at planning thoughtful dates. He pays for all the dates, and he's a little traditional.

When I brought up "where are we going?" he said he enjoys his time with me and wants to continue seeing me, and get to know me, but didn't want labels yet, I am falling for him and was a bit hurt but given we are still relatively new it seemed fair.

To me everything we do feels like a "relationship" but we are just "exclusively dating".
What are we?

29F, I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years. I’m under the impression that I want a relationship as I install apps on and off. I’m at the point where I get drained when they’re installed & when I’m not in the mood to reply to messages or swipe on profiles, I end up actually using it every other day or every couple of days. When I’m at the point where I notice I’m not getting as many matches or likes after a couple of months, that’s when I delete & likely going on hiatus. I think deep down I must want something other than validation right? I like men but I haven’t been in a ltr yet, I saw someone for a few months jn my early twenties & haven’t seen someone since bc I refuse to settle. I get interest from guys but it only seems to be on dating apps which I take with a grain of salt, I’m told I’m cute/attractive but never get noticed by guys I like in person (as in actually approached). I’m always told I haven’t found the right person & this may hold truth, I’m reserved & not affectionate/don’t have a sex drive really but feel like that could possibly change if I meet someone. I just worry I’ll feel regret as I’m getting old & still haven’t been in a ltr, I don’t want kids but open to marriage

Men in my area used to always wear shorts that were well below the knee, with the absolute shortest acceptable length being knee-length. It was kind of an unspoken rule for men to never let shorts go above their knees.

One day though, starting in around 2020 or so, men in my area began suddenly wearing shorts that were well above the knees and showed some thigh. It was a seemingly overnight change. I thought it would be a trend that went away quickly, but it stuck... and not gonna lie, I REALLY don't like it.

Like obviously other people can wear what they want, but I absolutely HATE how it looks. I don't quite know how to describe why, but it makes men look so... naked? It just looks too revealing. I just don't think men's thighs are a feature that need to be shown off. It's like the male equivalent of women wearing butt cheek shorts.

Like the 3 guys in the above photo, I think they would look IMMENSELY better if their shorts at least went to their knees or slightly below. They just kind of look like they're in their boxers, I guess?

That's not the main issue though. You can't even find the longer men's shorts anymore. My male friends told me this when I asked them about the length of men's shorts these days, and I checked the men's section and could confirm. You just couldn't find anything longer than a 9 inch inseam.

And yeah... I'm just really not liking this trend. If I had a boyfriend I'll make sure he never wears shorts that go above his knees... he'll be allowed to wear knee-length or below the knee shorts only! Lol okay no, not really, he can wear whatever he wants, but I'll just verbalize to him that I REALLY don't like it. I don't necessarily want him to change his fashion choices just to please me, but hopefully I incentivize him to at least TRY longer shorts, and/or buy at least a couple.

TL;DR- I'm just absolutely NOT a fan. I don't know, men's thighs are just not particularly attractive to me.