I want to start with I know all this about to sound like pure child’s play but anyone reading keep in mind the boy/group of boys are a couple of years younger. this particular group loves to rip on me, I don't mind, Im young at heart anyway and enjoy it (only 4 years older) I am close with one of the older boys in the group.
he kept making silly jokes about how I like minors because I thought one of the younger boys was cute. he told that boy jokingly I had a crush on him. possibly trying to be a wing man. when he told him, lets name him ben, ben would not let the topic go. all night I was teased, mainly by ben who was playing along, making several comments along the lines of, "I just got hit on by an older women." and then mocking me, pretending I was telling friends "There's this nice guy at work, he's so cute. but he's 17." another one, can't recall exactly the context beforehand but he said something along the lines of, "You would have to say no." when I kept defending myself to the relentlessly teasing he made comments on how I was defending myself so much that it must be true.
and anytime I would try and change the topic to any other conversation, he would let it go for a bit but eventually jump back into it. how I had a crush on him and how I couldn't stop looking at him. then we had a debate about the age difference, how it was small and what the legal age was. he seemed pretty engaged in the conversation saying things like, "Really? 4 years is nothing?"
there was numerous and numerous comments about me liking him and anything that involved his age and no matter how hard I tried to change the topic, someone, mostly him would steer it right back. I'm just wondering if he was trying to gauge my interest or it was just boys being boys and teasing me. and if it was just teasing, what was the point of it? just to get under my skin.
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You're older and supposed to be confident. He wants that.
I am confident, in fact I have no problem going after men but if I don't know his intention, especially if I have a close relationship with him like at work/school I'm not gonna after him. considering he's younger I don't want to creep him out and make him feel uncomfortable but I defiantly dropped hints when he was teasing me. you think he was trying to gauge my interest?
Guys don't get hints, no matter how obvious you think they might be. So do you have a close relationship with this guy at school or whatever?
What are you talking about intention? Does he know what your intention is?
yes we work closely together, one of the major things that stops me. by intentions I mean like what he wants, does he just want to be friends, is he just being a guy who's ripping on me for the fun of it. does he like me, what he wants. I think I've made my intentions pretty clear, which is that I'm interested. I don't want to go all in and then regret it later because I miss read him.
Well don't expect him to do anything unless you at least let him know you are interested.
You think you've made your intentions clear? Really? How do you figure?
when they were teasing me with those jokes, I joked back and basically told him I was open to it. he didn't really brush off the idea so I don't know where he stands
That's all in the realm of joking around. He won't know if it's serious or not.
why would I make jokes to that degree if I wasn't interested? like why would I make jokes about being interested in him if it weren't true
I'm just telling you how guys see things.
I understand that. just don't get his logic behind it
Who says there is any logic behind it at all?
Why would you make jokes about being interested? Because people do that shit sometimes.
As in indirect way to tell him I'm interested. If I didn't have such a close relationship with like I do at work I would have probably said something straight up so I wouldn't have to wonder. why can't men just get the hint?
Because the hints women think are so obvious are not to guys. We do direct, not indirect.
What type of business/workplace is it?
just your average retail job. I won't lie I liked someone else at my work place and one day I told him straight up, it didn't end so badly but it also didn't end very well. after that I swore I wouldn't tell another guy I liked him especially in the work place unless I knew he was into me
What happened?
I liked this guy at work and he gave the impression that he liked me, he basically lead me on when I told him I liked him he made a joke out of and continuously has picked on me/made fun of me since
Sorry that guy was a prick. That is pretty rare for a guy to act like that, don't let that discourage. MOST guys love to be asked out/approached.
I try not to be but I steer away from telling guys that I work close with now. Don't want to be the laughing stock again you know? and he's already been picking on me a little with those jokes I said in the question above
Well, I'm pretty confident he likes you, but you will need to be direct with him. Even though you aren't THAT much older, it's an intimidating dynamic for a guy that age. I speak from plenty of experience on this. 😁