So I met this guy on a dating app. At first we texted minimally for the first couple weeks, I was trying to gauge his interest and get to know him. He seems like a pretty well put together, confident guy and we share a lot of the same interests. He asked to move to texting, and I said yes. It felt like things were progressing slowly, and he even cheekily asked me to be his Valentine last month.
Thats when things heated up more. He'd ask me my plans in advance and we set up time to have voice calls/play video games together. We built up really good communication and honesty, that helped me feel very relaxed around him. This week on for several weeks, and we even got very flirty as time went on. Eventually he asked me if he could come up to visit me, he lives about 5 hours away, and drove up for the weekend to take me out on dates. He got a hotel at first, but we did end up sleeping together and he stayed over Saturday night. Took me out several times to get food, and we had a nice chill time with a lot of conversation.
We had talked about deciding on where things would go after this weekend, and I was almost expecting him to ask me to be his girlfriend tbh. But all he said was that he was "interested", not opposed to the label but he needed to think on if he can do the distance a little more. I was honestly a little disappointed but agreed that we can continue to see how things go, and he did say he'd like to come up to visit again in April. But all this week ever since he got back, its like his communication through text has slowed WAY down. He still sends me good morning texts and asks how work is, but its just kinda night and day from before. Its making me feel a little anxious and confused. We called last night, but only because I asked. And he hasn't said anything for this weekend. He HAS been busy with work so Im doing my best to be understanding he may need some space is all. And he said he appreciated that. Does he still like me or should I be worried?
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Guys, Is he losing interest in me or is he just slowing things down?
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Last night I confided a little in that I was feeling anxious due to the bit of distance between us this week. Not in an accusatory way, I knew he had been busy and he reaffirmed it was just that, but past bad past experiences have left me burned before. He reassured me that he understood my feelings, and THOUGHT we had left it on a bit of a better note. We agreed to at least have a voice call when we could... but now today he only sent me a brief "morning" and that was it
