We are dating 3 months, we agreed to exclusively date 1 month into seeing each other.
Around 2 months we became sexual. He's very affectionate in private. He's shy and doesn't do PDA much, but will kiss/hug/hold hands during outdoor walks/hikes.
Before the first date we both said what we want and they align pretty well: marriage, kids and committed long term. This has not changed for either.
We go on dates: morning hikes, drinks at bar, afternoon dog walks etc.
He has no family so I have not met anyone, mine is very traditional (so I can't tell them about him yet), he has casually met some of my friends. He usually comes to me and we are both on tight schedules so honestly haven't felt like sharing him with other people- so we haven't really had a double dates or hanging out with friends.
I've been to his place, mostly he comes to me, picks me up and drives me to date locations, he is good at planning thoughtful dates. He pays for all the dates, and he's a little traditional.
When I brought up "where are we going?" he said he enjoys his time with me and wants to continue seeing me, and get to know me, but didn't want labels yet, I am falling for him and was a bit hurt but given we are still relatively new it seemed fair.
To me everything we do feels like a "relationship" but we are just "exclusively dating".
What are we?
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Okay, based on what you described, I'd say you guys are definitely in more of an official relationship rather than just casually dating. Here are my thoughts:
- Being exclusive after 1 month and being physically intimate by 2 months shows you've both decided you really like each other and want to focus just on each other.
- The affection he shows in private, even if shy with PDA, and saying he wants to keep seeing you and get to know you better is a sign he's invested in you too.
- Talking about long term goals like marriage and kids is huge. Guys don't usually go there if they're just playing the field.
- Doing regular dates and spending quality time together, meeting friends, going to each other's places - that's classic relationship stuff.
- Only 3 months is still pretty new, so I get why he may not want to slap a label on it. But it walks and talks like a relationship from where I'm standing!
So overall, it really sounds like you've got the start of a committed boyfriend-girlfriend type situation happenin'. Maybe have another chat about making it official. But don't stress the label - enjoy what you've built so far!
Just dating/casually dating. You can date and be exclusive without it being a relationship. A relationship is with labels.
Just dating and figuring things out.