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They say it’s all men’s fault right.

But is it? Women reject you for being nice and too available. They value stupid things. Like being a gentleman to a girl should be loved by women. But it’s icky. They want guys that have a lot of interest from other women.

In my experience once a woman decides she can do this the only option is to cut her off and never look back. No amount of scolding and anger will ever change her mind. You have to show her you are ready to walk and mean it.

That’s a depressing option because a part of you is hoping she really respects you but you have to accept she doesn’t (which is a blow to your ego). It especially sucks if you put in the time, money, effort getting to know her.

But there is no substitute for self respect. It’s always better to be alone and have self respect vs. sticking around just to be exploited.

I have had to do this to a few women in recent years. While not all women take kindness for weakness there are unfortunately a few women who will take all they can from nice guys and not feel an ounce of guilt/remorse about it. These women will actively seek out men to do this to as well. They will accept “dates” from guys like this despite having no physical attraction to them. You always have to have your guard up about that unfortunately.

It’s partially due to evolution. There was a time in history where women completely depended on men for their survival. So if a man could provide help/resources and a woman didn’t have to do anything in return she would happily take him up on it.

However this is also due to our “modern” society. Women are not being taught to respect men but to instead indulge their own interests with no after thought.

But anyway have any you guys ever drawn the line on a woman who acted this way and have her do a 180 on her behavior? I find that once a woman thinks she “has” you she will never change her outlook on you unless she really needs something from you.

Is the belief or ideals of Monogamy inherently toxic?

For example Hollywood ideals we have come to know such as true love and soulmates demand both partners to be perfect for the entire marriage or relationship! Or otherwise it was never true love!

When we all know that human beings are inherently imperfect creatures, make lots of mistakes, and grow and change as person over time including our interests and dislikes.

Jealousy, suspicion, and mistrust is a huge part of monogamy! even though they will never admit it they will always have some doubt in the back of their heads. Why were they nice to x person or say x to that person or act in x way.

There are so many stipulation to marriage such as limiting interactions with the opposite sex, obligatory huge expensive weddings, obligatory expensive wedding ring, obligatory children, etc. etc.

If by some chance you are both miserable, divorce is a taboo and frowned upon and you are forced to stay with a person you hate for the rest of your life! And if you do get a divorce both partners fight tooth and nail to get as much from the other as possible and get control of the kids. etc. etc.

What do you guys think? Is it fair to trap a person to be with you for your entire life for your own selfish desires, beliefs, or insecurities?

What is wrong with loving every human being instead of being forced to just be with one for your entire life?