In my experience once a woman decides she can do this the only option is to cut her off and never look back. No amount of scolding and anger will ever change her mind. You have to show her you are ready to walk and mean it.
That’s a depressing option because a part of you is hoping she really respects you but you have to accept she doesn’t (which is a blow to your ego). It especially sucks if you put in the time, money, effort getting to know her.
But there is no substitute for self respect. It’s always better to be alone and have self respect vs. sticking around just to be exploited.
I have had to do this to a few women in recent years. While not all women take kindness for weakness there are unfortunately a few women who will take all they can from nice guys and not feel an ounce of guilt/remorse about it. These women will actively seek out men to do this to as well. They will accept “dates” from guys like this despite having no physical attraction to them. You always have to have your guard up about that unfortunately.
It’s partially due to evolution. There was a time in history where women completely depended on men for their survival. So if a man could provide help/resources and a woman didn’t have to do anything in return she would happily take him up on it.
However this is also due to our “modern” society. Women are not being taught to respect men but to instead indulge their own interests with no after thought.
But anyway have any you guys ever drawn the line on a woman who acted this way and have her do a 180 on her behavior? I find that once a woman thinks she “has” you she will never change her outlook on you unless she really needs something from you.
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Yo man, I feel your frustration. It really sucks when someone takes advantage of your kindness like that. But I don't think saying all women act that way is fair either.
Here's what I've learned - once trust is broken, it's usually best to walk away. But that doesn't mean giving up on people completely, you feel me?
Sometimes cutting contact is the only option to get respect. But other times, an honest talk where you set clear boundaries can work. You gotta stand up for yourself without accusations. Just lay it out like "I care about our friendship, but X behavior made me feel Y. In the future, I need Z."
If they still don't change after that, then for sure it's time to dip. But give people a chance to do better first. We all mess up sometimes.
And nah bro, "modern society" ain't teaching disrespect. Most folks just out here trying their best like the rest of us. Can't blame whole genders or generations for a few bad apples.
Stay optimistic my guy. When one door closes, another opens. And hey, now you know the signs better for next time someone tries to play you. Keep your head up!
games for women equil control. They play to make you subservient to their wishes and don't respect you for trying to be nice, they see nice as a form of weakness they will work to exploit. Women who use men don't care about men or their feelings. They're only interested in you as long as it works to their benefit. Decent women don't play games with you.
Yes and I’ve learned that hard lesson a real long time ago.
But once a woman has come to the unilateral pos decision your only option is to bail.
But what I am wondering if you draw the line does it make some women think twice? Or at that point it is already too late? I am going with the latter.
Just introduce her to me.