I think many guys want to know, if a girl or woman says, "looks don't matter, personality does". Let's just say a guy tells you he's developing feelings for you, you consider him like a 6/10 in looks, he has a nice athletic build but you may prefer a guy someone who's a little more beefy/muscular, he's not rich but he has a good job and works hard and has a good education. In terms of personality you consider him like 9/10 or 10/10. Would that indicate you're just being nice to a guy you're not attracted to physically.
Note: Please, don't give rude answers such as rating people is immature. I am merely trying to gauge at this situation, I know every girl, every woman is different.
What Girls Said
I will not let him think that I am interested in him in first place. If he says he likes me I still be nice by saying " I am feel flattered! I appreciate your honesty and courage but I am in long relationship with someone, hopefully we can still interact fine." If I say I am not interested in him that would make him feel sad and beat himself up say there's something wrong with him. I don't want someone to feel something negative.
I get that, but lets say you're single. You gave a guy your number, you mention to him hey we should go here or there, you're open to meeting him, you guys are talking for like 9-10 months, you enjoy meeting up with him on a date, the date goes well and you tell him you enjoyed the date/open to meeting again BUT you say "maybe you should talk to other girls" but also tell him you think he's an awesome guy. Im not saying you would do this because you're probably more blunt but if you did tell a guy he's awesome and you have gone on a date with him, would that indicate you have some sort of feelings for him.
9 - 10 month is too long to entertain someone else's time. That would indicate that I like him. But telling him to talk to others women doesn't MAKE SENSE.
thank you! what i just described is something i went through, last February, some girl added me on Instagram, didn't know who it was or who she was, dm'd her after 2 wks, responded back, things took off and we chatted a lot, she messaged alottt, sending tons of memes and videos of boyfriends and girlfriends fighting to how she woud like a wedding to be. To me, that signified wow, this girl likes me and she even said lets go to an art exhibit or museum. But a lot of stuff happened in between those months last year such as me graduating university to my father passing away to getting a full time job opportunity, she dealt with her stuff which i didn't want to be a pain in the ass about so I gave her time/space. Eventually we met in early October 2023 because September she went on vacation for religious purposes. Date goes well, she tells me she enjoyed the night, i gave her a scented candle as a gift which she liked and she told me genuinely she wanted to meet up and enjoyed the day because if she felt indifferent she told me she would have said this ain't working but she was open to meeting again. Few days later I got a bad flu October but as I was recovering in bed, I wanted to know if she was willing to meet up again. I may have been a little pushy I guess because I was sick and in a bad mood, part of my fault. But she's like yea she's open to meeting again but she doesn't feel any guy reeling her in (meaning feeling a spark).
This hurt me because here I am trying to be there for her, making her laugh, being patient, respecting her privacy/boundaries... Everything girls/women say they want from a guy or man. But I told her listen, I've dealt with bad girls in the past I dont want to waste my time with you if you're like that because I've been hurt before and we've been talking for awhile now. She took that as a sign of disrespect, the day after didn't want to talk to me, spent two days worth trying to talk to her but she wasn't having it, she's like what you said i dont see a future with you i think you're a great/awesome guy and I like certain things about you but i dont see this working out. Mind you -- i didn't insult her, or swear, i think she blew something out of proportion and she said fuck you to me and blocked me. Haven't talked to her since, but I do miss her, haven't contacted her since mid October and everyday I usually pray for her well being to God that she's safe.
She didn't want to be the mean one so she kept entertaining you because she was bored and wanted attention. Since you said to her : "I've dealt with bad girls in the past I dont want to waste my time with you if you're like that because I've been hurt before and we've been talking for awhile now. "
She took the advantage as reason to break the relationship. She needed attention and you given her. She was rude ass person. I am sorry to hear your story. Hopefully you move on from this situation for good. You deserve someone as kind as you! I got emotional by the idea that you still wish her the best. You are hopeless romantic, rare your kind. She ain't the only female in the world. Let the experience be experience only. Don't take it personal. Good luck ~~
do you think its immature if i block her? in my heart i do genuinely think she's going to regret her decision. This goes beyond just her. I wanted my mom and her mom to be close, I wanted my little niece and her sister to be close. When she told me her brother doesn't work. I was willing to help her brother get into the government so that her family is helped financially. God knows my intention but the fact that her last words to me were, "fuck you" and blocked me, I consider that immature. A lot of guys are not that patient. I know girls and women will get mad that a guy is being a fake nice guy. I just want to make this clear as a guy, girls/women don't owe guys/men anything. I know females are quick to think guys just want sex but I wasn't even looking for that. When I met her on the date, I didn't hug her or shake her hand or even try to kiss her. I was a gentleman, not some horny school boy. I tried to do everything right. Do you think she will regret it? This honestly felt like a kick in the balls.
Why you want a immature girl? A rude one? Don't feel sorry and don't unblock as she blocked you first.
"I know females are quick to think guys just want sex" everyone is having sex which normalized thing in western society. But move on.
is it ok if i add you and dm u on gag?
Tbh in my opinion and experience, I'm mostly attracted to guys based off their personalities. Looks come second.
Being "pretty" is a feminine trait.