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I want to get feedback on my partner:

- She’s not keen on me seeing friends, for my safety and would rather I met them with her. She also uses the find my iPhone feature with me.
- She messages me and phones various times per day, and gets frustrated if I don’t reply quickly, she says it’s to check I’m ok,
- She tracks my spending on her, to check we’re in budget. Even if I a buy a coffee she’s brings it up and asks why I bought it.
- She’s says if I don’t spend $$ on her birthday present I don’t love her. Also said her birthday needs to be “perfect” with hundreds of balloons etc and fancy cake.
- She doesn’t like me having a female friend at work, has told me to stop going to lunch with her. Said it’s to ensure I don’t “cheat”. She messaged my friend at work on Facebook to ask about me.
- My partner doesn’t like me following other girls on social media even friends.
- She told me I can’t have anyone better than her.

Is she a good partner? I’m really conflicted as this is my first relationship. My female friend said there is red flags everywhere, is she right?

Maybe the reason some people cheat and others don't is that some of us consider cheating to be a horrible and unforgivable breach of trust, while others might think, "I won't get caught but, if I do get caught, it's not that big of a deal."

So, two questions:

1. Have you ever cheated on a partner to whom you had promised faithfulness? and

2. Would you end the relationship if you discovered that your partner was being unfaithful?

I've never cheaated on anyone, but been the victim of cheating twice in 53 years of dating, relationships and marriage. The first time, my girlfriend confessed the affair to me shortly after it began. The second time, a mutual friend told me as I was already in the process of a divorce.

If you cheated on a partner, did you think that you could keep it secret forever, did you not care whether you were discovered, or did you not even consider the possibility of getting caught?