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He’s best described as Jekyll & Hyde. He will be overly loving and caring one day. Then the next visibly upset, won’t talk to me, and seems very irritated by my existence. Then sometimes a day or 2 later he is perfectly fine again. He will sometimes say that it’s life he is upset about, something small I have done (like leave a spoon to mix my coffee on the tray), or he is tired. It never seems to really make much sense. He is also constantly convinced I’m cheating or being secretive. His examples if you ask would be im spending more hours at the office, but the reality is I’m spending at least an hour less a day in the office because he was getting so upset. Now I leave early and finish at home. At this point it just feels like he wants to hate me or be upset with me. When I try to understand he says things that aren’t true. When I try to talk to my friends because I feel crazy they think he has serious issues and I’m his punching bag. I have quite a few examples of behavior that I can’t rationalize or understand. Like he will sit on his phone while I make dinner and clean up. As soon as I sit down to eat if I touch my phone he’ll make a comment how my attention is to everything but him. But when I try to give him my undivided attention he finds me annoying. Very confused girl over here.

Some background on my friend. She is very caring, strong, and loves getting people together. Sarah is pretty, always full makeup, hair curled, and always wearing something flattering. I am one who dresses more for comfort than appearance. I don’t like wearing makeup unless we are going out with friends or to do something where we are going to be in public all day. My boyfriend earlier on used to bring up how I should go shopping with my friend so I could start dressing like her. I told him her clothes are very expensive and not something I really wanted to put my money towards even when it comes to sweats. So for Christmas last year he bought me a bunch of lululemon. He says I need to be presentable when walking the dogs around our neighborhood. My friends have recognized when they all want us to do something the only person that can get my boyfriend interested is if Sarah tells him. He constantly gets upset with me that we never do what he wants, but he isn’t recognizing we always do what Sarah wants. He is a lot nicer and social with Sarah than he is with me. When I ask him why that is he says he would be the same way to me if I treated him how Sarah treats him. He is always asking who Sarah is dating and what she is up to. This is all so odd to me because he accuses me of having things with his friends if I even talk to them for 30 seconds, Let alone if I were to ever bring them up in convo. Last weekend I was upset about something else and it made me feel not good enough. He immediately brought up Sarah and how he doesn’t want her just me. My issue with the Sarah conversation isn’t that I think they would be together it is that I’m jealous of the attention and how nice he is to her in comparison to me. Throughout the night he would come up and say the same thing, I don’t want Sarah. I finally said I know for a fact Sarah doesn’t want you so I would really appreciate you stop saying that. It also just validates you aren’t hearing why that topic annoys me. So?