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For more than 2 decades I have seen my parents on most days are on good terms but I’ll never forget those times where my mom has a heated argument with my Dad and he will listen to her instead of arguing back. Although it’s rare but still I really hate it when that happens and couldn’t help but wonder should I get into a relationship/marriage because i couldn’t handle the nasty part. I hate conflicts no matter what, I know it’s normal that’s why I want to avoid it at all costs. From now onwards I’m choosing to stay single to preserve my peace as I hate conflicts.

I'm preaching to the choir when I say that life is difficult. We think that what other people have is better than what we have. This sort of thinking messes with our lives.

My next point is I'm in college. The ring before spring culture is insane. I see couples everywhere and yet I realize that I may not see as many couples as I think I see. What I mean by that is there are factors I don't see (where they are in the relationship). It seems better to be in a relationship because of the perceived validation, touch, and company. It takes a lot of adaptation to stay a couple.

Couples need to think about the future. There is the money aspect of buying a house and having kids. Other aspects are the partner's habits to maneuver, feelings to be honest about. If one is not honest about them (bottling them thus keeping them a secret) they won't get along very well. That is the price of creating a harmonious lifestyle. Habits and feelings are not bad they are a part of you; they will be a part of the kids as well.

I would say dating and marriage is an extension of school. While this will be an unpopular opinion, I will explain my reasoning. Anytime, I explain my reasoning I'd rather exercise my thinking than convince you. Dating and Marriage is not fully like school; it doesn't have math, literature and science in that order. School is heavy on the subjects, light on the fun. Dating and marriage is lighter on the subjects. The subjects are needed to keep the boat. Analogy: fun things keep the boat floating. Each semester I'm in college took adaptability to succeed in my courses. Every course is different, so is each person.

Decision-making for dating and marriage has to be unified. I am not saying that couples need to order the same thing at restaurants. I'm saying scheduling vacation times, which school the kid is going to, who's the nanny. Cemented stuff like that.