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I consider using people any time you're dishonest about your intention or lie your way through to try obtain anything from that unsuspecting person.

This has already happened twice with 2 different male friends I've known for years. It was clear there wasn't anything romantic between us ever. One of tried groping me and then excusing it with an ''Oh sorry, I was just teasing'' when I removed his hands from him. Another ended up admitting in the end that he was trying to get a date from me eventually and though I would naturally changed my mind.

The groper ended up ghosting me afterwards and the other one blocked me. Needless to say I felt used. If I wanted a relationship I would make it clear from day 1, not pretend to be someone's friend and do the ''go by the natural flaw, maybe the person will change their minds eventually'' method; sound like deceiving to me.

Isn't that still using people?

Friday night, my friend texted me just hi. I replying hi how are you. She said, “Stressed”. I asked what was wrong and she said she has so much in her mind and worrying about her problems and explained everything while I listened to her. I told her I was hear for her. I told her about my math class I’m stressing about too but she didn’t respond to that. I asked her why she didn’t ask how I am and she scolded that everyone has their own problems to deal with and they’re not going to always ask about my grief or how I am doing. She said I ALWAYS do this, making conversations about myself. Then she had the audacity to tell me I’m being insensitive about throwing in that I started my math class and it shows I don’t care enough about listening to HER problems. I was changing the subject to relax her stress. She told me to have a nice life and just dumped me as a friend.