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So long story short, my mom knows a lady that’s hiring whom she happens to be friend with and works with and she was telling me she would help me out to try and get me in. Then an hour later when I was asking her for details and an address she started yelling at me and acting all mad for nothing! The she said she doesn’t want me screwing her over with her friend! She also says to me if I’m gonna know how to get to her friends office myself.

my boyfriend is a good guy and wants to get married but I need a steady job in order to do that to be able to afford house/ monthly bills…he an I have been together for 3 years now.

Another weird thing my mom did was ask in a pushy way for my boyfriend to move into my moms house with us (the 3 of us) and was trying to make him rent out his condo…he and I hve made it clear that we want our own place later on just the 2 of us..

so why does my mom act like this? Why does she offer to help and then start yelling at me and being all crazy towards me? Is she jealous of my relationship? Or does she fear me moving out?

Long story short fighting with boyfriend over his 4-5 day disappearing hanging with other people and chicks, and then when I go anywhere even a gas station for 35 min to an hour hanging out with my friends he gets upset and wants me to break down my reasons well on day 4 I said I didn't want to continue the relationship with how much he takes off never tells me where he's going makes me worry and never replies to me. Never helps at home with the baby.. so I finally say point blank in black and white, WHAT ARE YOUR INTENTIONS WITH OUR RELATIONSHIP? he says he will move out, I'm a fucking bitch, he can't stand me, and he will come pack his stuff.
Later 6 hours later asks if he can come get clothes I say yes. He shows up to sleep and repeat the cycle of taking off once awake. NOW 4 days after finding out his intentions I've tried distancing myself, Detaching etc. And He sparks another argument with me which I say why does it matter that I cooked dinner with my family last night I deserve social interaction too besides just kids all day. He says it's not fair cause he doesn't get to go out. He will count me 1 hour with my family but his 5 to 8 hour hangout at the neighbors wasn't getting out. Then I blow up saying, Were not together so who gives a fuck and he's like oh now we're not together I'm like no we haven't been together since you told me your intentions. I used to love him so much but the controlling behavior only seems to be getting worse. To the point he tells our neighbors he was going to smack the fuck out of me. Like what man does that? If someone told you that they hate you and their intentions were to leave you, then, by all means why does he think we're now working it out? Yea I've been civil. Civilly waiting for him to get his shit and go. Then says he doesn't know what makes me think he didn't want to still be with me? Like I'm more into self love after this experience. I asked point blank his intentions yet I'm the bad person now.