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I have heard about it. Men saying that it is women mistake if she is single is her 30s or late 20s. but how?

Because she was dating good looking dude? So women shouldn't date someone who they find attractive? Because for some reason a good looking can pump and dump you?

I mean if I started relationship with long term intention. Then isn't it his mistake if he lie?

And they always talk about giving chance to uglier nice guy. But how do you know if this niceness is fake or real. And ugly guy are capable of doing too. And second I used to be fat. I was bullied by guys because of it. I seriously don't want to have kids with a ugly dude. Because it could mean a ugly daughter. And ugly women suffer.

And why would I date someone if there is 0 attraction. Men never do it. Why should women?

If I like his personality but don't find him attractive. Then he would be a friend. I like many men and women personality. Lol

Men always imagine that it happen because women were only into short term relationship. Dude I never have been in short term relationship. Have 0 interest in hook up. But it is possible that I might be single at 30s. because men lie/cheat/abuse you. I don't think it would be good idea to stay with a guy if he beat me. Because he can beat our kids too. I don't want that for my kid's. How is my mistake if he lied about being interested in long term relationship? Or cheat?

I've read this infidelity story before. I'll refer the names as Jane and Tom.

Jane was 19 and Tom was 20 at the time. They've been dating for 8 months or so when she got caught cheating. She cheated with Tom's good friend. Both got caught falling alseep in Tom's house, on his couch in a compromised position with the TV still running, an empty bottle of rum and empty snack bags. They had already finished the deed when Tom arrived. His friend was only in boxers and she dressed up with jeans but only had bra. Alcohol was involved and the cheating went on for nearly 3 months.

Tom somehow forgives that, reconciles and still marries her 5 years later. Jane changed for the better though, by her own admission never cheated again. Then 15 years into their marriage (and 20 years since her cheating took place) and with 3 kids, Tom begins coming home drunk and cheats for other reasons; midlife crisis. Tom briefly fell in love with the other woman, stole some of his wife's money to spend it on his affair, secretly gave his wife's meals to the other woman and was thinking about setting up a trip to France just to be with her for a bit, away from responsiblities, away from the kids, out of reality. Their ages by then are 39 and 40.