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For context, my brother has been dating his girlfriend, P, for two years. I absolutely adore P—she’s like the sister I never had. Long before they began dating, however, I met her brother, T. He and I are in the same grade, only about six months apart in age.

I first met T in seventh grade, when he was still a bit of a “geeky” guy. By the middle of eighth grade, I had my first boyfriend and met P for the first time around Thanksgiving. Back in seventh grade, I had a small crush on T, but it was nothing I ever considered acting on.

During freshman year, T and I had science together and started talking occasionally. I began to realize I still liked him. As our siblings grew closer, so did we. Whenever we passed each other in the hallways, we would exchange smiles—he has the cutest dimples when he smiles.

By the end of freshman year, I wanted to ask for his number, but I was too nervous. He was talking to someone at the time, and I didn’t want to overstep boundaries; if I were in that girl’s position, I wouldn’t want him giving out his number to other girls.

I hadn’t seen him for about three months until today, when we had back-to-school night. He was there with a friend, and he smiled at me like no time had passed. Later, he came over to my house because he, my brother, and P were going to the lake. When I saw him, my heart skipped several beats. I tried to keep my cool, distracting myself by making cookies and watching a show.

I don’t know if he’s dating or talking to anyone. If he’s not, I’m wondering if I should ask for his number and get to know him better. Before pursuing anything, I would make sure P was comfortable with it, because the last thing I’d want is to betray her trust or cross a boundary in our friendship.

Hi Guys and Gals!

I came across an article after hanging out with a few friends yesterday.

Reading closely, the article reinforces the idea that on some level we're basically flirting with most people we grow close to... friends as well as folks we consider "relationship material". Hmm. It reminded me of what y'all said reply to a few of my previous behavioral questions:

• How often do you text someone (opp gender) who you're just friends with?
• Why would someone with reductive thought patterns suddenly want to be friends when he doesn't value his interactions with women?
• Be honest, someone writes you a long message/email (1+ page), do you read the whole thing or just skim?
• Girls, Ladies, ever had a friend who claims she "considers you a sister" but is constantly stabbing you in the back?
• Seems one of my guy friends has caught "girl next door" fever... WT* am I supposed to do?
• How do you know if a guy just sees you as a potential "side piece"?
• Go Fish: Do guys "fish" to see if their close female friends are interested even if the gal only sees him as an elder brotherly figure, nothing more?

(It's a lot... those who have time to browse can, those who don't... skip ahead to the poll. I'm just trying to tie a few things together pertaining to a behavioral issue I'm trying to assess and resolve amicably.)

SO...

• Please see which type of flirt you think you are...
• Share the strangest flirtatious comment someone used on you...
• Share your biggest (or most interesting) flirting blooper.