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Be honest with me.

I got a few matches on tinder in a couple days with no replies. Like I’m worthless junk.

I posted a male fitness model on tinder and he got 15 matches in a few hours and they all replied to him. He’s also white and I’m not which is a big disadvantage I have.

It’s over for me? I don’t feel good enough anymore for a pretty girl.

I can’t believe how much the average girl expects in a guy. Some men have all the luck. I thought I was handsome and tall but obviously not.

Just got me thinking, the usual cliche is that a hot guy is almost always confident because he knows he's hot, but there are also these rare specimen out there that are very good looking, but either don't know that they are good looking, or just don't find it important and are shy for another reason.

I also think it's very well established at this point that girls find confidence very important in a guy, but it is also said that if a guy is hot, girls will find pretty much anything about him to be cute, some would even prefer shy guys I think because it would be a better match for their own personality type.

Anyway, please give your thoughts.

I understand that women get more matches, more easily on Tinder and because of biology it makes sense. I find 2 things frustrating about dating apps in general. The first is that very few women ever put any actual work into making a bio or really any effort at all, why is that? Not all guys are just super thirsty looking to hookup, finding out things you may like about the person shouldn't be left until after a match which brings me to my next frustration. I find it's always me putting the effort in to respond to messages timely or respectfully. If I don't message them and say good morning I don't hear from them, and this isn't only the first few messages, it's even after there's somewhat of a repoire built up texting off the app. It constantly feels like they don't actually want to be talking to me and I'm just supposed to be chasing them all the time which is emotionally frustrating to say the least. I'd like to hear from other guys to see if they experience this aswell and also from women to hopefully provide some insight as to why this is. I'm not saying it's not something I'm doing wrong but conversation is one of my strengths and I never fail to create interesting discussions. I'm very respectful and not creepy so I dont get it. I just can't for the life of me figure out what I could be doing wrong, is that just the way the world works now? I'm recently out of a 10 year marriage and am new to dating again. Thanks!

I know some of you are going to go off about never using dating apps or trying to find people online period. That’s a separate debate so please don’t bring it up. Not everybody has the time or environment to socialize with singles on a consistent basis.

Anyway I’ve gone real back and forth about ever mentioning sex or even acting flirty with girls I match on dating apps. On one end if she already finds me attractive, is in a good mood and hit her vibe right it can make her more eager to meet up.

However the downside if I just make one wrong comment many women panic and hit the “creep” button. It’s game over and there is little or no room for forgiveness. Often the guy has no idea he’s out. It doesn’t matter if it was an honest mistake or I had no idea she didn’t like a certain comment. Many women just freak.

An even worse scenario is she might just want all virtual sexting and has zero interest in meeting for real. The virtual attention is good enough for her. Most men aren’t satisfied with that. They want to meet someone for real.

Then there is the safe route (and it can be genuine). Just act friendly, funny and don’t mention sex. Many women find this to be non-threatening and are more likely to meet in person.

But a downside with this is she might find me more boring. Some women are deluded/selfish to believe that guys are okay just making “friends” with women on dating apps. Nope. That’s a huge waste of time and effort. That doesn’t mean men are always looking for hook ups. Some of us really want to start a relationship. But there is always at least some romantic interest. Men don’t seek out random women to become “friends” with.

So anyway what’s the best route?

Like on tinder it’s hard to get any matches in a day. On bumble it’s even worse and he’s me thinking I’m an attractive guy with a very good profile and pics.

It’s all because I’m not white