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My ex and I went through a lot of fights. Regardless, we managed to make it work because of our strong emotions. Just before our breakup, it reached a point to where he was calling me names and bringing up my family, basically no respect left on his part & coming at me for little things like me saying “thanks” instead of “thank you.” I blew up on him eventually & mentally checked out. 1 day we got into a fight and he said he’d block me (something he does when he’s mad). I then accepted some requests from guys- i was really mad-on social media (didn’t message them and deleted them later. He found out and hell broke and also found platonic msgs between a male friend I’ve known for 5 years. Those msgs included funny memes. I stopped being friends w/ this guy for him. He asked to check my phone, I didn’t agree because he should trust me & wouldn’t want him to think it’s ok to check my phone whenever he feels the need in the future. We ended up breaking up. We kinda kept in touch though to reconcile. Weeks turned into months leading up to us meeting in person. As we were chatting, he told me his expectations which included he checks my phone, I agreed. Then he asks to see my male followers to ask how I know them. I told him some are friends (since HS) and he didn’t like that. He said he doesn’t like his girlfriend to have male friends & I should take off whoever he doesn’t like. I had a reaction and didn’t let him check my phone so ofc he had major issues. We never got back together but now we’re surfacing the relationship again he told me of the same expectations. I’m really conflicted and don’t know if getting back with given expectations are normal or not. Is getting back a good idea?

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Been together since 7.5 years

He has always been careless, emotionally immature kind of person. I always thought he'll get better with time. Since He grew up in super protected environment.

He didn't even do bare minimum efforts and didn't treated me properly , my fault being i never complained and expressed and so he thought its okay to be like that. (And i was waiting that things come from his side itself without me asking)

I used to suffer without letting him know much, me being a hopeless romantic n sensitive person.

Now he's asking me to teach him how to treat girls so that he can do better. I feel its not my place to do. Its something his parents / friends/ himself should have taught him.

As a person he is very pure of heart, honest, and all. But he's superr dumbo and kinda avoid difficult conversations.

Tbh its kinda difficult for me and maybe I'm getting emotional since i have spent soo much time and energy for this guy.

I really wish things worked out but i dont want to lose myself in the process too.

One part of me is like.. should give another chance

Another being let it go. Things might not get better in future as well.

Another is just be friends. I help him develop as a person as a supportive friend. And if things work out or we feel we can try. Otherwise just friends.