Does my fiancé wants to leave before the wedding? Please help me 😭💔 ?

[Anonymous]

We’ve been together since 2019! Our relationship was great as soulmates. He proposed at 2021 we started building our future since then. Anyways since last year he lost his job, parents and friends. He isolated himself from people and ME. Last time we met it was in September last year! He stopped calling, coming, replying to my messages. Ignoring all my calls. He doesn’t have money or job yet I kept supporting and giving him space. Now it’s going to be a year since last we met and he keeps on ignoring me everyday! He texted me before yesterday saying its OK i f I want to leave him he would understand. I was like WTF!!! He said he is depressed, he has panic attacks and don’t to talk! I told him to let me help him through it and he just disappeared again. We become from crazy lovers to strangers saying hi & bye only. I don’t know what to do anymore because I don’t understand and our wedding is planned for next year in July.

[Anonymous]

Ugh, this is such a hard position because it won’t matter what you do, if he doesn’t want to change or doesn’t see a problem with his behavior then it’s just not gonna happen. You’ve invested a few years into this man, love him enough to marry him so I know you’re really suffering. But right now you’re in a place where if you stay, you’ll only be signing up for more of what’s happening now, and I think you should want more for yourself. You have to realize you aren’t marrying the man you were blissfully in love and happy with, but a shell of him. Ask yourself, is this the life you want for yourself in 10, 20, 30 years? This cold, distant man, is that the father you’d want your children to experience as they grow? I think the answer would be no.

[ImalwaysrightOK]

Aww, don't get married to him unless his heart and head are 100% into it. He sounds like he's majorly depressed and ashamed.

[Danny_dan92]

Talk about it. Bring up concerns. If he doesn’t improve.




It’s time to move on

[Asker]

I feel like i’m being clingy and he is not interested anymore but it could be my imagination!

[Danny_dan92]

A spade is a spade.

You noticed a change in his behavior. That isn’t you being clingy

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[Danny_dan92]

No problem