Search Results: are we getting serious

I was dating this guy last year and he was having some serious issues with work & family. Anyway he was inconsiderate, didn't communicate properly, etc. I truly did "give heart" as I went above and beyond trying to help him, be understanding, etc.

He reached out recently, blamed outside factors for his behavior, and I decided to try again. But I find he's just as he was - if not worse - and I'm thinking I made a huge mistake accepting him back as a friend getting to know again.

So I'm trying to help a friend - who is having some serious issues (lost job, etc.) - but I'm also getting tired of their behavior. They will text me something, such as asking how I am, and when I respond they don't respond. When I ask how they are, they don't respond.

This is someone who has asked me for finanical help & potential help with housing - things I can help with due to my career & professional connections - but in many ways it feels our "relation" is one-sided more than anything.

And I'm getting tired of putting in effort to half assed to even no response. Particularly when this isn't the first time this person has acted like this (poor communication, etc.).

So since the start of last month I've been helping - or trying to - help a friend who is having some issues. To be clear they ASKED for my help initially, as I didn't know of the situation they were in until recently (had I known I'm the sort who'd have offered help).

They lost their job
They may need legal help
They will need finanical help / housing, etc.

All of these things I can assist with due to my career & various professional connections.

But I'll send this friend an email or a text message asking you know do you want this, do you want that. Do you want to talk and sort of voice your worries, concerns, etc. - as we've done and/or as will do whenever this friend gets it into their head that they want to talk.

They almost never respond to my questions, etc. They barely communicate - but expect me to help with serious issues (such as money or housing) - and when I text rarely text back.

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They say they appericate the help & all but those are just words. And I was always raised that words don't mean much without action. And a text when sitting at home jobless doing nothing - as they've admitted - beyond asking for money or help with housing isn't much.

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And it's getting to the point... I'm getting tired of trying. I am extremely patient by nature but it really is getting to the point of why am I even trying anymore.

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I'm asking for opinions cause I'm not actually a pushover. I'm not helping this person to earn their favour or something. I'm helping cause that's the sort I am. ... But on reverse if I decide enough is enough with anyone that I deal with I just cut them out of my life cold turkey