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No I’m not a sociopath. In fact I am sometimes too empathetic for people.

Anyway I have known a few in my life (even regrettably dated one in the past). I can’t change their nature but just accept the sad fact they can never be trusted. Sociopaths will only value people to the point they get value out of them. This can be sneaky because their “value” can mean different things. It can be looks, money, sex , social optics, etc. Even the ones who are heavily involved in “social justice” initiatives just want the social kudos that come along with it vs. really caring about the people they are supposedly fighting for. Sociopaths see life as a chessboard.

They get paranoid about being “found out” because when they know when that happens people don’t trust them. They need to be trusted to gain their own ends. So they are good at acting and behaving seemingly genuine. But when no one’s looking they will be the last to inconvenience themselves to help someone else who can’t repay them. That’s the acid test of identifying a sociopath; how do they treat people who can’t benefit them.

With all that said a part of me can’t help a bit envy for these people at times. They seem to always get what they want. Sociopathic men usually do (at least initially) very well romantically with women compared to more empathetic men.

It’s because they come off as confident and non chalant because they aren’t worried about hurting a woman’s feelings. They understand the concept of challenge and good at being manipulative. But they put on acts like they care to convince them otherwise. And of course they become the nasty heart break stories women complain about. Then some of these hurt women generalize ALL men for these asshole’s bs.

But on the flip side it must be a heavy burden knowing that you can never really be trusted and must always cover your ass.

I’ve online dated a lot. No girl I liked had ever ‘fought over’ me. While they were ignoring my messages they were just simping over the really hot white guy that didn’t give her attention. I’ve seen their dms vs mine. If you’re a perfect looking white guy, you can not message them and they are begging for your attention.

Girls are all the same, they all suck. I never get the ones I want. None of them deserve me how about that, I’m going to go far in life. They don’t deserve what I could bring. I hate them all. I’m bitter

I’ve been on the apps for fkin years. Even paid money here there. I give up. There’s also nothing more I can do to work on myself. It’s over

I’m 25. I’ve had enough experience I feel

In my experience once a woman decides she can do this the only option is to cut her off and never look back. No amount of scolding and anger will ever change her mind. You have to show her you are ready to walk and mean it.

That’s a depressing option because a part of you is hoping she really respects you but you have to accept she doesn’t (which is a blow to your ego). It especially sucks if you put in the time, money, effort getting to know her.

But there is no substitute for self respect. It’s always better to be alone and have self respect vs. sticking around just to be exploited.

I have had to do this to a few women in recent years. While not all women take kindness for weakness there are unfortunately a few women who will take all they can from nice guys and not feel an ounce of guilt/remorse about it. These women will actively seek out men to do this to as well. They will accept “dates” from guys like this despite having no physical attraction to them. You always have to have your guard up about that unfortunately.

It’s partially due to evolution. There was a time in history where women completely depended on men for their survival. So if a man could provide help/resources and a woman didn’t have to do anything in return she would happily take him up on it.

However this is also due to our “modern” society. Women are not being taught to respect men but to instead indulge their own interests with no after thought.

But anyway have any you guys ever drawn the line on a woman who acted this way and have her do a 180 on her behavior? I find that once a woman thinks she “has” you she will never change her outlook on you unless she really needs something from you.

If I was not in a relationship, and I bought a brass lamp at the antique store, and the geni in the lamp could deliver the girl of my dreams. . . she would be an older version of the girl in this photo. BUT. . . after 50+ years of dating and relationships, I have dated only one woman who came close to this ideal; she was REALLY hot (but she was eventually revealed to be a drug abuser and a horrible potential partner for me.) I have dated women who were taller, heavier, not blonde, more endowed upstairs, not as cute, etc. Many of those women were very good dating partners and many of them appealed to me in a lustful way! I am engaged now and my fiancee looks NOTHING like this photo, but she's a GREAT match for me! So, if you ask me about my ideal woman, I can describe her but this ideal ("my type") has really eluded me all of my life. That's okay.

So. . . what about you? How often have you dated someone who was a good match for your ideal guy or girl?