Search Results: wanting to be more than friends

Felt like we were building a genuine connection, I like to take things slow but never made it clear. I usually lead with friendship because thats important to me.

Her: so I’ve really enjoyed spending time with you and getting to know you, but I’ve realized I see us more as friends than anything else. I think you’re a great person, and I wanted to be honest about how I’m feeling. I hope you can understand

Me: I respect how you’re feeling, thank you for being honest with me. Not going to sit here & act like I had no interest in you early on. Definitely should have been more straightforward with you earlier on. Just want to tell you that you’re an amazing person, don’t ever change who you are. Wish you nothing but the best :)

Me: Hey, I just wanted to make sure there was no confusion in what I wrote. If the feeling is mutual I am open to a friendship as well

Her: Yes I'm opened to it, I just wouldn't be able to hangout til the new year

She is traveling for holidays.

Lost hair to a telogen alopecia at 18. Shave what’s left. Still have eyebrows and most body hair. I’m a decent looking guy, even told I’m handsome by many. But I’m 28 now and I’ve just had no luck dating. Never even been kissed or on a date. I’m very social, involved in many groups and activities, went through 4 years of college and always had big social circles. So so many times women have shared how they can’t believe I’m single etc but yet, sometimes even those same women, turn me down. There’s been a small few who were into me but honestly I just wasn’t attracted to them. That physical attraction has to be there as well as the emotional one. I got one life and I am not settling on what I want just due to a genetic condition. But I don’t blame the women who aren’t interested either, looks do matter, just sad to think hair really is such a big determining factor for men’s looks and there’s nothing I can do but wear a wig (which I actually started doing-a full custom one, it’s 2024 and makes me happy).

But yeah, I’ve probably asked out 40 odd women in the decade I’ve shaved my head, all no’s. About 12 made it clear it was the baldness. (I always journal so I have reread this many times and remember the numbers, probably not healthy) and I’m sure others were the same. Just sad, really wanted to be married to a young woman I found beautiful and who I loved dearly. Didn’t care about much else. Not interested in waiting until I’m older, nor in dating women older than me. I’m 27.

Honestly friends I think I may clock out here soon. Love each other out there and please be kind. We all need to learn to take rejection yes but please be kind giving it. This world is mean enough.