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I was always told this growing up. I used to believe women understand men better then vice versa. But not anymore.

I believe women understood men better in earlier times out of necessity. They used to depend more on men to provide and protect them. It was important for them to understand men they wanted to get in a relationship with vs. those to avoid.

But in modern times women seem far less concerned about understanding men. Not that I expect them to naturally understand that. But one thing they seem to struggle with is understanding the difference between likeability / attraction vs. respect. Men actually crave respect more then they crave sex, intimacy, etc.

It’s possible to still respect someone even think you don’t like them. It’s about understanding their situation and what they have to deal with. And truly men generally understand this concept far better then women do.

One example is when I broke up with my ex girlfriend. At that point I was no longer attracted her at all. Can’t say I liked her much either. But I still respected her. I knew about her struggles and dreams. That’s why I gave her the respect of sitting down and breaking up face to face. Endured 2 hours of hell (screaming, crying, etc.).

But I don’t regret it. I didn’t fixate on her flaws and chastise her over grudges and things I didn’t like about her to self justify my decision (I’ve had women do that to me when I was dumped). I had enough respect for her that would just add insult to injury.

I wonder how often this happens. You meet someone and you actually are attracted to them physically or emotionally but you thought it through and knew ahead of time it would never work out so you friend zone them due to that. Ever done that?

I try to avoid using terms like 'friend zone' because i feel its either misused or really is just a phone term meaning someone sticking around who the other person isn't attracted to hoping they'll change their mind.

But in this case though what if they are actually attracted but due to circumstance they can't pursue it and so only offer friendship?

I keep wondering about this 🤔

so by too available like any time you text them they always text right back almost immediately. If you call it’s usually only like 1-2 rings before they pick up. So basically aside from them sleeping there’s a hardly ever a time where they don’t get back to you pretty fast. Is that ‘unattractive’ in your eyes?