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Hello everyone, I need some advice.

A few days ago I had an argument with my boyfriend. We’ve been together for about a year and four months. The issue started because I’ve been feeling emotionally tired lately. His dad has been very sick in the hospital for months, so he’s been understandably depressed and wanting to go out more to clear his mind. I care about him a lot, but my household is very strict. Even though I’m 20, I’m not really allowed to go out often or come home late, so it’s been hard to balance everything.

During the argument I said I thought we should break up because I felt overwhelmed. I called my sister to pick me up from his house. While she was waiting outside she started calling me repeatedly and assumed something bad was happening, even though I texted her that everything was fine and I was just getting my things.

When I came out she went inside and started yelling at my boyfriend, accusing him of things that weren’t true and saying she didn’t want him near me again. After that my mom got involved and believed something serious had happened. Now both my mom and sister think he’s bad for me and they pressured me to break up with him.

The problem is that I still love him and our relationship was generally happy. He’s not perfect, but he’s never hurt me. Now I feel stuck because if I stay with him my family gets extremely angry, but breaking up feels like I’m ending something good because of other people.

I love my family and I love him, and I feel like I’m being forced to choose between them. What would you do in this situation?

Hey guys so me and my boyfriend have been getting into a lot of arguments over it recently and neither of us are willing to compromise so I want to know opinions.

I follow other guys on Instagram, I know them from school and extra curricular and we don’t interact with each others post and only message to ask questions about performance and midterm dates, study guides and homework or missed classes or extracurricular (I’m in a group where we do singing and dancing and we catch eachother up on choreography for anyone who’s missed. Almost all of these chats are group chats with multiple women and men. None of them have my phone number or my Snapchat as that feels like a different level, and no one has yet (I have my boyfriend posted and always make it pretty clear from the get go I have a boyfriend like if I meet people in class and it’s a group and someone’s like “what’s everyone doing after? Anyone down to grab lunch?” I’ll respond with “sorry, I really miss my boyfriend so I think I’m just going to head home for today”) but if anyone did make a flirtatious or suggestive comment my immediate response would be to block them and probably say something along the lines of “not cool… you know I have a boyfriend so fuck right off”, even being in group chats together if someone crossed that line I genuinely wouldn’t care about the missed opportunities for school work and info because it’s a broken boundary and I would find someone else in class or another group who would be more respectful.

to him, he still feels like it’s disrespectful and that no guy would be okay with this. To me, I feel like it’s controlling and while if he specifically said to unadd anyone specifically I would, not being able to add any feels like too much and if we don’t come to a conclusion now what’s it going to look like in the future? If our kids go out with a friend and their dad can I not get his number to check on my kids? What about getting coworkers contacts to switch shifts?