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We’re currently in a dating app era & the idea behind dating apps seems practical yet you hear more bad than good things about them. Almost 30 & I’ve never been in a LTR, I have accomplished everything I currently want out of life but been able to find a quality guy. I’ve owned a condo & strive to eventually own a home in a few years, are dating apps to blame behind being single or is there more to it (aka am I the issue)? I’ve been told I’m attractive by all kinds of people for a good chunk of my life but I’ve never been approached in person by a guy I’d like to date (getting checked out doesn’t count).
The only times guys I find attractive have acknowledged me were on dating apps, it’s just there’s times where maybe I feel burnt out & can’t be bothered to end up meeting that guy in person.

Or when I feel like I have *options*/ I’m in a mood where I just don’t want to put in the effort. And when the app outlook looks dismal at a given moment (like now), I consider deleting & reinstalling at a later time. I get bored after communicating too long etc, it may seem like self sabotage topped with my terrible anxiety but I’ve never felt SO unsure about something in my life & that *something* is dating. Unsure if my lack of libido/lack of interest in being sexual might play a part (no health issues). There’s always that voice in the back of my mind that makes me think the right guy will change all of that but who really knows. I’m worried I’ll be shriveled up & when I finally have that drive, it’ll be too late to find a match. I heard an influencer say the other day that there shouldn’t be pressure or a rush to date, it’s an opportunity that’ll always be available.

TL; DR: Is dating hard for most? And is my case bad luck or someone unsure of what she wants?

Brad & I started long-distance dating through an online app in Nov 2023. We met in person in Feb. I managed to move closer to his city because of school from March-June, so once I came, we began living together & he proposed to me in May. A school situation happened where I got dismissed, so my sister came to move me back home in June. My family didn't like him during his visit since he was focused on taking me back to his home & not caring about my mom needing me/my school situation. I decided to stay with family & Brad disliked that since he hoped I'd leave that day. He left & gave me a hard time about my decision since then. My mom said she planned a Sept party where I could move back in with him more honorably than if I had just left. Brad didn't want to do it, but I did. We waited until Sept & then I found out my mom lied. I fought with her, she apologized, & now booked the venue in Nov by showing me confirmation. She told his parents so they could see if she would keep her word. Brad distrusts her & said if I didn't leave my home by the end of the month, then he'd end the relationship. I told him if my mom started to do anything fishy before Nov, I'd leave, but it didn't make sense to end the relationship over this, especially since I planned to visit. He sent me a goodbye/breakup texts the past week & fighting with me about this party. I told him that if he meant what he said about ending things, then he needs to stop communicating with me unless he decides that he's willing to do the party for my sake in Nov. He said he didn't want to wait that long, but I don't know if he'll change his mind. I texted him a couple of texts since me saying "don't talk to me", but he hasn't responded. I saw him following another girl on social media too, reached out to her, but she didn't respond to me. Do you think he's taking time to think & will reply soon? Or do you think he'll leave me? Why did he still text me even though he claims he ended things a long time ago?

We’re currently in a dating app era & the idea behind dating apps seems practical yet you hear more bad than good things about them. Almost 30 & I’ve never been in a LTR, I have accomplished everything I currently want out of life but been able to find a quality guy. I’ve owned a condo & strive to eventually own a home in a few years, are dating apps to blame behind being single or is there more to it (aka am I the issue)? I’ve been told I’m attractive by all kinds of people for a good chunk of my life but I’ve never been approached in person by a guy I’d like to date (getting checked out doesn’t count).
The only times guys I find attractive have acknowledged me were on dating apps, it’s just there’s times where maybe I feel burnt out & can’t be bothered to end up meeting that guy in person.

Or when I feel like I have *options*/ I’m in a mood where I just don’t want to put in the effort. And when the app outlook looks dismal at a given moment (like now), I consider deleting & reinstalling at a later time. I get bored after communicating too long etc, it may seem like self sabotage topped with my terrible anxiety but I’ve never felt SO unsure about something in my life & that *something* is dating. Unsure if my lack of libido/lack of interest in being sexual might play a part (no health issues). There’s always that voice in the back of my mind that makes me think the right guy will change all of that but who really knows. I’m worried I’ll be shriveled up & when I finally have that drive, it’ll be too late to find a match. I heard an influencer say the other day that there shouldn’t be pressure or a rush to date, it’s an opportunity that’ll always be available.

TL; DR: Is dating hard for most? And is my case bad luck or someone unsure of what she wants?