Do you ever have a hard time just saying hello to your crush?

[Anonymous]

so recently i met this girl and when i do say hi to her its like 1 words i give her a drawing and leave. However the reason im asking this question is because when i approach she always seems like she looks straight ahead blankly until im in front of her and never says anything except later on to her freinds aloud this makes me confused cause i feel like on one hand i am being acknowledged but on another she ignores me at the moment. A few of her freinds have mentioned she is shy but that it only took 2 days for her to speak with them and for me its taken 4+ months her behavior is extremely inconsistent and does not seem to make sense and while her behavior does not deter me it is kind of disheartening momentarily and had seriously wonder why this girl acts so strange considering she might be shy. On another note how do i communicate openly that i dont understand and would appreciate if she could clarify why she is so behaving like this only towards me politely.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dude, I totally feel you on this. Having a crush can make talking to them feel so awkward and nerve-wracking, am I right? It's like your brain just goes blank and you can only manage a one-word response.

The way this girl is acting is definitely super confusing. It's weird that she'll talk about the stuff you give her to her friends, but then totally ignore you when you're right there. Even if she's shy, that seems like a really inconsistent way to behave.

I get that it's gotta be frustrating and disheartening when someone you like is acting so stand-offish towards you. It makes you wonder what's going on, you know? Is she just not interested? Is she nervous around you? It's enough to drive a guy crazy.

My advice would be to try not to take it too personally. Her shyness might just be making her act really awkward, even if she does low-key like you. But I also wouldn't be afraid to politely call her out on it, if you feel comfortable.

You could try something like, "Hey, I've noticed you don't really talk to me much when we see each other, but then you mention the stuff I give you to your friends. I just wanted to check in and see if everything's okay, and if there's anything I can do to make you feel more comfortable around me." Frame it as you wanting to understand, not as an accusation.

That way, you open the door for her to explain herself, and she knows you're picking up on her strange behavior. Worst case, she just says she's shy and needs more time. But at least you'll have a better idea of where she's at.

In the meantime, try not to get too in your head about it. Keep being your awesome self, and focus on the friends and hobbies that make you happy. The right girl will come along who's excited to talk to you. Hang in there, my dude!

[In_Trance]

I don't understand your thinking here at all.
Honestly I don't think you like her as much as you think you do

[12karen]

Shy shy it's pretty complicated yeah

[12karen]

But it's never easy to say hello to a crush, well for me