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My ex and I went through a lot of fights. Regardless, we managed to make it work because of our strong emotions. Just before our breakup, it reached a point to where he was calling me names and bringing up my family, basically no respect left on his part & coming at me for little things like me saying “thanks” instead of “thank you.” I blew up on him eventually & mentally checked out. 1 day we got into a fight and he said he’d block me (something he does when he’s mad). I then accepted some requests from guys- i was really mad-on social media (didn’t message them and deleted them later. He found out and hell broke and also found platonic msgs between a male friend I’ve known for 5 years. Those msgs included funny memes. I stopped being friends w/ this guy for him. He asked to check my phone, I didn’t agree because he should trust me & wouldn’t want him to think it’s ok to check my phone whenever he feels the need in the future. We ended up breaking up. We kinda kept in touch though to reconcile. Weeks turned into months leading up to us meeting in person. As we were chatting, he told me his expectations which included he checks my phone, I agreed. Then he asks to see my male followers to ask how I know them. I told him some are friends (since HS) and he didn’t like that. He said he doesn’t like his girlfriend to have male friends & I should take off whoever he doesn’t like. I had a reaction and didn’t let him check my phone so ofc he had major issues. We never got back together but now we’re surfacing the relationship again he told me of the same expectations. I’m really conflicted and don’t know if getting back with given expectations are normal or not. Is getting back a good idea?

I've been dating my boyfriend for nearly 9 months now and at this moment, there aren't any arguments nor issues. Our relationship remains at the sweet, innocent stage where no major wrongs nor offenses have been done.

However, once trust issues starts, there is a bad argument (ex: if he were to yell out me suddenly and called me stupid... and I yell back) or too much bad blood going on , that relationship dies right? Things never flourish, recovers nor progresses from there right?

Similarly, when you apply for a job interview, you have to give out a good impression or you don't get it. Then once you get the job, you can still get fired if there are too much reprimands from your boss and lots of issues. You would be no where closer to becoming a manager one day. Would you say this is a good analogy? Are they similar?