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We had been flirt for a few months and have been dating for 2 months. A few days ago he came to me we had sex for the 3rd time his penis was down after 10 min sex and had difficulty getting hard etc. but we were fine when we left he said baby we will handle this etc. we kissed and hugged. The next day at work he was acting weird I saw him with the girl I see him a lot lately. I was upset and ignoring his attention. When I asked him you flirting with other girls in front of my eyes? he said she is married woman with a child you know that right and he looked at me I was acting werid. Normally we text each other when we leave work he would drop me off at home sometimes even though I went to the department he worked at he didn’t pay any attention I saw he had closed everywhere he was done leaving. Anyway I went out while waiting for a taxi he texted did you go out I said yes and he replied I went out just fine I just wrote but I saw him go 10 minutes before I left. He didn’t text I don’t know what he waited for. He said he was invited somewhere for Halloween that day and he said he was extremely tired did he go there I don’t know either. Anyway in morning I texted good morning honey how are you and he texted I am at work still tired etc. we talked very briefly. After couple hours he first posted a wise saying about ego on his Instagram story, then he posted a reel of a man eating pizza on a mountain at sunset, it says looking forr people to do this activity with. There is an app we use for couples, he changed his mood to ‘sad’. I don't understand what is his problem?

Obviously both are liars and scams, using deception to get what they want. Though would say you baby-trapping a man is worse than strining along (giving them false promises of marriage and kids) women?

Male method: He's been living with his girlfriend for 8 years and he already knows from the longest that he won't ever marry her. Yet he doesn't see the relationship as that bad, just that he sees her as a good girlfriend but not enough to be a wife. So he keeps with sweet talks and false hopes. The woman continues believing him but gets depressed the relationship isn't progressing. She's not happy. Or he proposes with a cheaper ring and keeps her as a fiancee just to give her false hope and keep her from leaving but never plans a wedding date. By wasting her time, he's taking away her fertile years.

Female method: She's been living her with boyfriend for some years but is fed up with the situation. So she elaborates a plan to pretend to be on birth control or secretly sabotage it. Sometimes the woman already knows the guy isn't the type to bail out and is against abortion or she does this to someone that believes a child should be raised with marriage. Knowing that, she got what she wanted; a short-cut to a proposal and then marriage. She might even take that secret to the grave. The man ends up believing the birth of his child as an accident or miracle from god if he's religious.

This is how a baby-trapping (this woman got marriage out of that deception and the man never found out) story looks like:

https://www.city-data.com/forum/relationships/3427335-my-20-year-old-lie-secret.html#google_vignette

Both were about satisfying their own desires and needs; selfishness. Even though both are doing despicable acts (deception is already bad), would you say baby-trapping is worse? The reason I think it's worse is because an innocent baby (a small, living human) is used as part of the deception, scam. I think that's worse than even using someone for sex or money.