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28F, I have had no luck on dating apps for the years I’ve been on and off them. I dated someone briefly for a few months back when I was 23, it just wasn’t a good experience. Since then I refuse to settle for anyone again, I think I am genuinely unlucky. I was bullied as a kid up to HS, some of my family wasn’t any better. I struggled with my weight & when I was 23 I lost a good amount of it, I’m the same weight now for the most part. I didn’t get any more attention, weight loss results in a lot of attention for people. You’d think as a woman it’s easier & I think it is for most but not me. Funny thing is I’m told I’m cute/attractive by people (not only by family) but guys never approach me in person. I’m not a friendly person which is why I use the apps, I get matches but in the end it doesn’t work out for all the reasons you can think of. I told myself at 26 if I’m in the same position we have a problem, 2 years later & I think it’s time to throw the towel. I think for a while I’ve become more & more disinterested in using them too, maybe I go through phases? Most people are taken, married & have kids at my age, it’s not meant to be if it hasn’t happened for me yet in my opinion.

You know the saying the good ones are already taken? The good looking ones always are, does that mean I’m not one of the good ones? This post comes across as very defeatist but I’m just being blunt, I’ve been on and off the dating apps for years. I’ve become more and more inactive, I can’t tell if I’m uninterested or burnt out. Getting matches have never been the issue, it’s just working out. I’ve never been approached by the kind of guy I’d actually date, people tell me that guys look at me but they never do anything about it. The ones that do aren’t the types of guys you’d want, don’t want to overthink it either but I have a very low sex drive. I don’t socialize so the apps are the only way, I don’t want kids & think it’s time to come to terms with this. My mom said this a while ago, “if you choose to be single your whole life that was your choice”. That was a bit insensitive & ignorant

Okay so when I say older, I’m saying potential matches up to 38. My filter before was 29-34, personally I feel like 40 is too old for me. I mean guys my age likely already have kids, expanding the range will only bring more fathers. A few people have implied that women go after older men because they’re more mature but that’s a generalization it just depends. I really doubt matching with older guys is going to just bring more luck, since I’ve been lacking it with the dating apps (using them on & off for several years).

I’m starting to realize that maybe men just don’t like me, I’m going to be 30 soon & never been in a proper relationship. I don’t want kids at least but I really don’t think I’m unattractive, I have self esteem issues so my opinion changes. But I’ve been on the dating apps for years on and off, my interest in them just became lesser over the years. Getting matches are never the issue it’s just it working out, always ghosting, fizzling out, etc. I’m told I’m cute/attractive, I never get asked out by guys in person, I can confidently say I’ve never been approached by a guy I found physically attractive. Back when I was 23 I dated someone briefly & I felt so offended by only being able to attract him it felt like settling I couldn’t be with him, I’ve been alone this whole time that shows you how men feel about me. When I was younger and around people my age more often I was told these guys found me attractive but they never did anything about it. The fact that beautiful people are always taken it makes me realize I’m maybe just not good enough. Isn’t it strange being as old as I am & still not meeting someone that I actually like? I’m not asking for a lot: good looks, taller than me (doesn’t have to be 6+ ft), educated, good sense of humor, not a cheater etc. I feel like I’ve genuinely become less interested in dating with my experience, I have a lower than average sex drive too I think

28F, I haven’t dated someone in years & haven’t met someone from a dating app in over a yr. I’m at the point where I just don’t feel the desire to be active on them & use them kind of sporadically throughout the week. I’m really worried that years down the line I will regret being as isolated as I’ve been, considering I don’t have a social life. I don’t want kids & when it comes to friendships, I don’t put myself out there either. I just don’t have the energy to deal with people, most friends I’ve had throughout the years I’ve cut off. Im not one to settle with people’s bs for the sake of not being alone, I’m quick to cut people off when they do things that bother me after an extended amount of time. With dating, I haven’t had sex or masturbated in years. I find men attractive but sometimes I wonder if men like me. I’m told I’m cute/attractive & getting matches on the apps have never been the issue. It usually just doesn’t work out & it can go both ways, I never get approached by guys that’s always been my reality. People are a lot of work & relationships are too much work at times, I’m kind of apathetic but my anxiety takes over at times. Maybe the right person will change everything.